You Are Your Own Worst Enemy

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About Harris O'Malley

Harris O'Malley provides geek dating advice at his blog Paging Dr. NerdLove, as well as writing the occasional guest review for and appearing on the podcast The League of Extremely Ordinary Gentlemen. He can be found dispensing snark and advice on Facebook and Twitter (@DrNerdLove.)

Dr. NerdLove is not really a doctor.


  1. I think one of the most important ways this plays out is in terms of confidence. If you are down on yourself you won’t come across very well. For instance, the guy who plays “Adam” on “Girls” is not conventionally attractive. But he has a lot of confidence, which is appealing. (I’m looking at how the actor comports himself, not the ins-and-outs of the character he plays, which can be quite negative.) But I’ve also known that people who are down on themselves can be hostile to others. Also a turn-off.


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