Our relationship is ‘none ya’ business!
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This comment was by Sheket in reference to the post – When May-December Relationships Work—Breaking the Taboo of Older Men and Younger Women
In the last few months, I’ve entered into this May-December relationship sphere after being widowed for almost seven years. The man I am dating is neither a wallet, nor a hunk, and being retired, no six figures either – he’s simply a wonderfully kind, empathetic, gracious man with a great sense of humor, an interesting life history, some shared common interests, oh, and he treats me as a woman of value. He stands up when a woman approaches our table, he holds doors open, he’s kind to invalids and helps others. I found these traits lacking in men of my own age, younger men, and some older men that I dated.
The looks we get, the snide under-breath cracks as I go to the ladies room from wait staff, and some family comments, are painful. I feel like wearing a T-shirt that says “None ya”, as in, it’s none of your business what we value in each other. We knew each other over a year before we started dating. We have shared friends. And I could not be happier. I’m not oblivious to the fact that I could end up a caregiver, or that I would face widowhood again should the relationship go that far. Nor is he. We have touched on some of those discussions, but the relationship is new enough that they are just that – touch points. However, it has changed MY perceptions of other relationships with age gaps and caused me to be less judgmental and assumptive about other people’s motives. Growth is always a good thing
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