Luisa Otero, a relationship coach to women, is encouraging men to share their emotional lives.
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When I think about how the world is today when it comes to men, I experience many emotions. In my work, the topic of men is front and center, and in my opinion men are being left behind in a huge way.
Women are being empowered and that’s all good, but I find women taking it to the extreme where they feel they do not need or want a man any more. Men are being isolated and forgotten, and until they start to speak up about what is going on for them, relations between men and women will continue to get worse.
Just like women, men have feelings. They want to be in powerful, loving relationships. They want to be fathers to their children. Men need help and mentoring. They need strong role models. They need the space to speak their mind without judgment.
So I say to all you good men, find your power from within. Start speaking your truth. Don’t let society or any of your taught beliefs get in the way of being who you were meant to be.
Be honest with your friends and family about who you are and what you want for your life. Stop being ashamed and stop letting the standards of others dictate how you run your life.
Forgive yourself for all that has happened in your life. Give yourself permission to be in a space of love and compassion; it will give you back your life.
Women say they are tired of the same old men, so dare to be different. Let your emotions show. Support each other instead of fighting each other. The future generations of children need strong men to lead them, but it is up to you to make good choices to be that strong man.
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A lot of Men honestly don’t know there own truth to even tell it, I have find that most of our Men are lost not due to any fault of their own, but by the generational damage left behind by the ones who came before them. Most of our Men are Fatherless, not because their father wasn’t around, (I know plenty of Men who’s father was around, who are still Fatherless) simply cause the tools needed to be one weren’t there. It will take a Man of Tenacity and Perseverance to get to the core of an emotional break thru,… Read more »
I have to say that this is right on point. Luisa is such a powerful force in relationship guidance. When it comes to men we need to learn our roles. Women do not desire a weak man. We must understand that we were designed to be the head of the household. I know today’s society will have women believing that men are more of a headache, but that is not so. Once a man defines his role, he can know and speak the truth about himself, where is has come from and where he is going. A defined man can… Read more »
Beautifully written, Luisa. As women, we need to create a supportive environment for men to dare to speak their truth. And bravo to all the men for finding the courage to give themselves permission to be themselves and live in truth.
I’m not much for giving praise luisa ! but in getting to know you by your media i have found that you are very good at giving men constructive ways to raise there relationships to a much higher level of Love !
One of the things men can do is to stop playing a role and just be themselves. Whatever that is. People will judge you if you allow them to. The other option is to pay them no mind. Who decided what a man is supposed to be and how they are supposed to act? It is all a myth that somebody made up and convinced society to believe. So just be yourself. Surround yourself only with people who are OK with who you are. If your family doesn’t like it, move away from them. If your friends don’t like it,… Read more »
Mike you are so right. We do need to learn to be who we are and not who society dictates to us. It can be a real struggle in defining self. And you are so right about family and friends. If they cant accept you for who you are, then yes you need to move on in life. That can be a major battle as society says to stay there and fight. All that does is cloud the situation. There are times that I think society wants us at our lowest points so that we can be controlled easily.
Good article, Luisa. I am an emotional man. Not afraid to admit I tear up on sappy Hallmark commercials or seeing my autistic son learn how to ride his bike on his own for the first time, thanks to this fantastic group where I live. I unfortunately suffered for many years of battling my inner demons, specifically bouts of being depressed. Not to confuse it with depression as I was able to function day to day, work my job, tend to my family but anything outside of that was a huge battle, shall we say survival mode. It cost me… Read more »
Well done Eddie It’s good to know the light at the end of the tunnel isn’t a train. I find myself halfway through the journey you seem to have already trod with not a disimilar start and a marriage that fell apart. I found myself a few months back facing a decision, and in the words of Shawshank Redemption – Get busy Living or Get busy Dying. I chose the former and have just started swimming to loose weight (which is going better then I hoped, my face has actually changed from the profile pic which is only about 6… Read more »
Bravo to you Eddie, and thank you for sharing your truths. This is when things will change, life always happens to every single one of us, & sometimes its not good & most of the time we don’t like it, but what I’ve learned is that its not what happens is what we do about what happens to us in a positive way. We all can let our circumstances continue to keep us hostage or we can push forward like you have & get our lives back, & yes baby steps! Congratulations my friend sending you much support & peace… Read more »