If you are lonely when you’re alone, you are in bad company.
1st Class Citizens: Freedom, access to education/information
2nd Class Citizens: Oppression, tyranny and fear
Life is far more nuanced than a quote from a fortune cookie. We minimize our individuality and the uniqueness of our lived circumstances when we resort to common used phrases. Part of being an adult is problem solving. But we often forget that emotional problems and psychological baggage requires deep thought and years of self-reflection and de-programming. You may not be able to do it alone. It is in these instances where I advocate for talk therapy or for a support group filled with people willing to offer non-judgmental constructive critique and feedback.
We will never have the strength to forgive ourselves of past mistakes if we don’t engage in deep analysis of prior choices. The possibility of such introspection is difficult if you explain away your collection of mishaps and fuck-ups as some quasi-universal master plan. It is easier to absolve oneself of personal responsibility when we explain actions and behaviors with clichés such as:
“Everything happens for a reason. In the end everything always works out. This too shall pass. Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”
You can develop a spirit of resilience and embrace the opportunity you have as a first class world citizens to traverse difficult circumstances. We are actually very fortunate; fortunate enough that we can even contemplate reducing our most stressful times in our life to simple statements. Perspective and self-reflection is a luxury we first class citizens enjoy. It is probably the only simple joy of life.
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