Shawn Maxam shares the lessons he has learned from failing to end his own life.
Shall I right the wrongs or will the wrongs write me.
The topics of suicide and death are still very taboo on our society. I think conversations about how short and precious life is can be very useful. I use writing about my own struggles with living and my own attempts at ending my life as catharsis. I hope you find these reflections helpful and meaningful. I do this for everyone including myself but most importanty for Shawnel.
The ability to accept epic failure and move forward.
- The Anger Within – Surviving being Black, Male, Poor and Mentally Ill in America
- The True Story of How My Mental Illness Had Me Nearly Shot by the Cops
Life is filled with incessant crisis both minor and major but we can all survive and use tragedy to learn to thrive. I will be expanding upon this idea with a post in the near future.
2. Deliberate Self-Reflection
The practice of actively looking inward and focusing on ways to improve oneself.
- How I Learned To Embrace Greatness
- Life Lessons From a Man who Almost Lost It All
- David Foster Wallace – Creativity Killed The Cat
Every experience presents an opportunity for introspection. We all need to engage in an honest assessment of ourselves in order to better understand how was can make our lives better.
3. Muscular Empathy
The practice of not judging people’s past behaviors with our current knowledge.
- Muscular Empathy: Why We Shouldn’t Judge People of the Past with our Knowledge of the Future
- The Death of My Infallible Mother
4. Healthy Behaviors
We are obsessed with our thoughts but it is more important to focus on our behaviors. It is our behaviors that affect our well-being and the people closest to us.
We are taught to think more about positive thinking and happy thoughts than to practice healthy behaviors. Other people can witness, judge and be affected by our actions whereas they can only perceive our thoughts.
5. Emotional Maturity
Recognizing boundaries and understanding why most people have reached emotional adulthood.
- Emotional Maturity, Boundaries and Why Most of the People You Know Aren’t Actually Adults
- How Machismo Harms Relationships
6. Evolving Expectations
The art of changing our expectations based upon the circumstances of our experiences.
- The Enjoyment Equation
- The Stress of Absurd Expectations
- Why People Aren’t Really Disappointed In You
7. Strategic Sacrifice
The willingness to engage in sacrifices that are only beneficial to all parties involved and won’t create emotional harm.
- JOHN 3:16, Sacrifice and the Short-Cut Fallacy
- “People Aren’t Against You; They Are for Themselves”
- The Myth of Individual Exceptionalism
8. Aggressive Happiness
The method of robustly pursuing happiness via various techniques.
9. Intrinsic Forgiveness:
This is the daily practice of essential forgiving yourself and others from deep within your core.
- How I Learned to Stop Worrying …. And Love the Bipolar Disorder
- You Win Some and You Lose Most (And That’s Okay)
10. Circumstantial Patience
Patience requires constant and deliberate practice. Too much patience can be detrimental to a person’s emotional and psychological well-being while too little patience in other circumstances can be damaging to achieving long-term happiness.
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