Anger is a killing thing: it kills the man who angers, for each rage leaves him less than he had been before – it takes something from him. 

-Louis L’Amour 

When you have the urge to be violent than walk away. This just doesn’t mean physical violence but also emotional and psychological violence as well. I don’t condone the punching of walls, doors and beds or uncontrollable yelling (raising your voice occasionally is different). Do not let the woman you love “guilt” you into staying inside the house. I suspect many arguments have strayed into even more volatile circumstances because a man didn’t allow himself to walk away or didn’t have the discipline to.

The braver man walks away from bar fights, fist fights and road rage encounters. I’m nearly six feet and well over two hundred pounds. These physical features may not earn the respect they are due but if I was looking at a man of my size I would be intimidated. I rather control my rage than face the consequences of a Hulk-like aftermath.

Every man I know personally has engaged in some form of emotional, psychological or physical violence. Whether it ranged from using slurs against his significant other or drinking himself into a stupor and then driving home drunk afterwards. They have punched things, thrown things (large and small) and their partners have called the police but that is the obvious signs of abuse but there are many instances of implicit acts of  rage.

An angry smile?

Everyone gets angry. But rage is anger on steroids. And rage is very dangerous emotion if you have the physical ability to express. In our society men are rarely taught how to allow themselves to be angry without it transforming into rage. Rage is responsible for the domestic abuse and violence in our homes. Rage is the cause of wars. Look at the atrocities of our world and tell me that these aren’t people consumed by rage.

I am still learning the difference between anger and rage myself. I’ve slowly realized that anger is at times misconstrued “masculine” attempt to express feelings of sadness, pain, disappointment and other aspects of being upset. Rage on the other hand is a beast that none of us should attempt to tame. It possesses an intensity and volatility that few would dare attempt to master. And no one should. The awareness of the unpredictable power of this emotion cannot be understated. Self-control and strict self-discipline are the many tools men in particular (and women as well) can and should use to treat themselves and their partners with the respect and compassion all of us deserve.

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R.I.P. SKH