Heather N. is back to give some answers. She just needs your questions.
So for those of you who’ve been reading these weekly articles, you might be wondering why they suddenly disappeared a few weeks ago. (Sorry). Did I run out of questions? Did I lose interest? Had I answered every single question out there about feminism, thus creating a space-time paradox in which I was transported to the year 2077? (I just started watching Continuum; forgive the mangled reference).
The answer is actually quite simple: real life. June’s a busy month for students. I had two essays due back to back, plus all the goodbyes and gatherings that happen when people graduate. Plus, there’s all the random other personal stuff that takes up time. Who knew that grocery shopping could get in the way of writing an online column? Freaking adulthood.
Then there’s the other part of real life, which is the real life stuff that I end up writing about. There was DOMA and the Texas, Ohio and North Carolina anti-choice bills and all the other big news stories coming out this week. And writing a few hundred words about DOMA (and the rest) is pretty quick, particularly right after I just got done reading a bunch of articles and tweets about it. Writing answers to some tough questions about feminism takes time, which I just did not have.
But, never fear, because I will be back next week with more answers to your questions. In fact, I am always looking for more questions. So if you have a question about feminism please write it in the comments below or you can e-mail it to me at [email protected].
Heather,
I have had discussions in the past with a particular feminist friend. Although I am largely sympathetic to her views, and do honestly agree with most of them, there have been a few times where we have went many rounds arguing over some points of contention. During one of these debates, she became very condescending and belittling toward me, but when I pointed that out to her, she took it as me using a “more flies with honey” concern troll method, which allowed her to dodge any responsibility for her rudeness. What is a proper response when this happens?
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WHY would it be doing that.
Jefe, there is no acceptable response for rudeness. Rude is rude and disrespect is disrespect. Perhaps the double-standard anti-male sentiment in feminist theory may account for the rudeness.
Heather, is the treatment of male survivors of sexual violence considered part of rape culture? I have not studied the subject in much depth, and I am curious. In my own experience, I have been called F****t, pansy, and my personal favorite by a supposedly self proclaimed feminist told to “Man up.” (Please note, I do not judge all feminism by this one individual, in fact feminists I have talked to, have been far more understanding of my experiences than the public at large.) If it is a part, I believe men would be far more accepting of the concept… Read more »