Have Better Sex … Tonight?

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About Shawn Peters

Shawn Peters is a creative director for Viewpoint Creative , as well as a writer whose work has appeared in the Boston Globe Sunday Magazine and on ESPN.com. His upcoming novel “Plan.Be.” will be published as soon as he sells the damn thing. Follow him on Twitter @ShawnTweeters.

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  1. “She admitted, “I don’t have a specific anecdote to give you, as in ‘my friend Jane tried the reverse cowgirl position illustrated on page 32’, but yes, I’ve had friends mention that they have tried or wanted to try something in Cosmo’s Karma Sutra. There’s also the huge draw of reading about something to find out if what you’re going through is ‘normal’—especially when it comes to sex and women’s bodies””

    Lord. Someone had to see ‘reverse cowgirl’ in a magazine to try it?

    • It was a “for instance” I’m sure. But I’m also certain that no matter what a person considers racy, adventuresome or even progressive… someone else considers it “the usual Tuesday night.”

  2. Great article! I suppose magazines are all about aspirational goals…your fantasy life if you were 17 lbs. lighter, blonder, with whiter teeth and a harem of guys who look like Viggo Mortensen and Michael Fassbender around you….It’s a fantasy!

    I once gave my younger brother a copy of Men’s Health when he told me he was diagnosed with hypertension….he was a little dismissive with all the advice (I guess he was still in denial), especially the sexual strategy advice (his comment was somewhere along the lines of “My wife and I too mature in our relationship to even bother with sex…so this is utterly ridiculous…”)…oh well….!

    • I’m pretty sure Cosmo’s target audience is not women who’ve been married for twenty years… unless it’s cleverly playing up to a delusion among married women in their 40s that they’re still young, slim, and sexually desirable to anyone but their husbands.

      • Julie Gillis says:

        Nice, Copyleft. And I might add the same would go for the husbands in their 40′s if we are playing that game. People can be desirable at varying ages. All depends on who is desiring them.

        • And I’d argue that a headline like “Have Better Sex Tonight” appeals to everyone, regardless of age or gender, because it’s inherently relative to whoever reads it.

          Short of being a person who is consistently having the “best” sex you can imagine, who doesn’t want to have better sex… and if possible… tonight?

  3. wellokaythen says:

    You’re not obligated to give details, but in general terms how far did the conversation about sex go with your wife? It sounds like you came from a great distance to broach the subject of having sex that night in a very indirect way. Perhaps sex would be more likely if both of you could make time to actually talk about sex face to face. If it takes an indirect, inanimate third party (an open magazine) to make it happen, your chances are pretty low, in my experience. Are you afraid to broach the subject of sex directly?

    One obvious flaw I see: the top of the toilet is not a good place to stimulate the libido (except among the women that Jackie dates. See elsewhere in the GMP.)

    The central point is very well taken: popular magazines can have a complex audience, and the headlines often don’t quite match the article content. (This website would be another great example of that.) It’s absurd to think that grown women in a sexual relationship have absolutely no idea how to turn on a man. If it takes a mainstream magazine to tell you, there are bigger problems in your relationship. In most cases, just tell him you’ve been reading up on how to make sex better, and you’ll activate the launch sequence.

    It’s great that you encourage your wife to explore ways of being as healthy as possible. That will usually help your sex life. I commend you for looking in her magazine only because you’re being supportive. I would be looking at her magazines because of the photos of fit young women in tight clothing in active poses and all the references to having sex. You must be more enlightened than I am.

  4. Well, I’ve always thought the sex articles in women’s magazines were for men, not women. Thye are mostly about how to get a man off. But the men’s magazines are more concerned with t&a and how to get a woman into bed, some of them even suggest lying.

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