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What do you do if your grandson comes out as gay, and your own daughter calls him an abomination?
You stand up to her, you tell her she’s doing the wrong thing. You tell her SHE is the” shame in the family”, not her son.
This great letter, shared by the FCKH8 Facebook page has gone massively viral – and for good reason.
This guy is definitely an example of what it means to be an LGBTQ ally and an awesome grandfather.
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As for my other comment, I just don’t know how to make the language any more neutral. I just find it a delicious irony that in a literal sense this article is praising an act of what is literally “patri”archy: a father chastising his daughter and basically disowning his daughter because he is right and she is wrong.
My earlier comment was definitely drenched in sarcasm, so please allow me to revise it in a more neutral tone. In my view, this article would fit equally well in the larger GMP conversations about: parenthood similarities and differences between mothers and fathers child custody policies regarding mothers as compared to fathers roles that both men and women play in bigotry and/or child abuse I was suggesting, in an admittedly pointed way, that this case is about far more than just questions of sexual orientation and homophobia. I don’t see why we can’t examine the role that the gender of… Read more »
This is great stuff, man. I’m so proud of that grandpa. I even laughed out lout at the last line. And frankly, I can deal with his comment about her not having a heart, because she chose biblical judgment over humanist compassion. And Steve, why don’t you try to make a positive contribution to this convo instead of making absurd generalizations about the GMP. By the way, if you think the male + female writers are blindly pro-mom in any + all circumstances, then frankly, you haven’t read many articles here + you certainly don’t understand this project either. The… Read more »
Sorry, minor typo. I meant, those things AREN’T mutually exclusive . . .
I would have loved this more if he didn’t resort to personal attacks himself. Wonder where she could possibly have learned to reject loved ones when we don’t like what they’re doing…
Last sentence was uncomfortable – that is true. At the same time, one can empathize with a personal attack here – after all disowning your gay son IS a statement of character – not merely an impersonal choice. He should not have used the b-word … but “heartless” seems like a pretty fair sentiment. For some people (especially bigoted ones) you have to aim much more directly.
“I would have loved this more if he didn’t resort to personal attacks himself.” I was thinking the same thing. It was also kind of cute and at the same time cringe-worthy when he said “fabulous (as the gay put it).” But, I think we could also cut him some slack. Given his generation, and the real possibility that his grandson is the first openly gay person he knows closely, and given that this may be uncharted territory for him, he’s doing a good job. (This specific scenario is not covered much in his edition of the granddad manual.) It’s… Read more »
WOW! Onw awesome gramps!
I have to wonder which doctrine made this woman disown her own.
That’s real talk. Tough, compassionate love from the Grandfather to both the Mother and son.