Steubenville Case Forces Parents to Address Adult Issues With Kids

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  1. Yes, we do need to have on-going conversations with our children about sex. But I disagree that these are “adult issues”. They are human issues. Kids need age-appropriate information as they grow and can process the information. Just as in math or reading or science, education is power. And children need information (power) about their bodies as well. It’s healthy.

  2. Absolutely agree, Brenda, and I wrote the headline. I have no frame of reference because I’ve never parented in another generation, but does it seem like these conversations are starting younger and with greater urgency? Not just because of the ubiquity of social media, but because of some greater cultural shift towards instant gratification for little or no consequence?
    –Andy Rooney

  3. “But I don’t want my girls to emerge from childhood with their heads down, unaware, and unprepared for the the fact that there is real evil in this world….”

    Walking past my son’s middle school I was accosted by 2 JHS/HS aged boys on skateboards (just 2 blocks from my house)….they leered at me (I look young for my age) and one of them said, “You make my pants want to get up and dance…!” I walked past quickly and ignored the comment because I was in a rush to get home…but I thinking back, I should have gotten their pics on my cellphone and reported it to the local school’s principal….

    Last year on Career Day at my son’s middle school, I not only discussed what I do for a living but also about the importance of fighting street harassment (Hollaback!)….and I was pleasantly surprised at how mature and thoughtful the 6th and 7th graders were in response to my discussion….they were more mature than the idiots I have encountered in the streets….

  4. I agree with all you have written. But let’s not forget to also teach our kids about their rights as far as their body goes. We need to educate kids in body safety, also know as sexual abuse prevention education.
    This is my advocacy so please parents go to and download a free body safety song and lots of free hints on teaching body safety to your kids . I don’t want to push my own barrow but as a collective, parents, we can do better than this. With 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 6 boys sexually abused before their 18th birthday and with 93% knowing their perpetrator, put your own fears aside and teach your children body safety. It won’t hurt them in any shape or form, but it just might keep them safe. They are so much more vulnerable to grooming and the inevitable abuse, if you don’t!

    • Part of body safety is respecting their bodies, and that lifelong lesson started at an early age will inculcate respect for others’ bodies. The numbers you list are abhorrent and systematic of some larger cultural problem of taking whatever we want without consequence.

  5. Steubenville Case Forces Parents to Address Adult Issues With Kids?? Why is it taking an incident like this to “force parents” to do what they should be doing all along?

  6. Tom B, are you just reading headlines again? Oh, it’s ok, I’ll excerpt the second paragraph to save you the trouble: “The need to have frank discussions with our young kids, boys and girls, has never been greater. From an early age, there is a new impetus to have conversations with children that, by all rights, should not actually be a part of a childhood experience designed to be about rainbows, cupcakes, and superheroes.” It goes on, of course, but if I quoted it all here in the comments then what would be the point of the article?

  7. Necessary and sad. This case has been weighing heavy on my heart. I am a mom to 4 teens (well, one is 21 now…) so I know the challenges. We have to constantly teach and discuss and be there….our kids are bombarded with so much across so many media platforms…sex is trivialized, men and women are objectified, women are victimized on almost every law & order show…ever stop at a red light next to a car blasting rap lyrics that are so horrifying you have to roll up your window? Parenting in this culture is not easy.

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