Simon Doonan argues that all we have are our lives, and when we start forgiving people for taking them away we are leaving ourselves vulnerable.
Is forgiveness always the best option? Simon Doonan from Slate doesn’t seem to think so. He asserts that the belief in the “healing power of forgiveness,” or as he puts it, “the now-ubiquitous forgiveness movement,” has gone too far. He writes,
The basic idea seems to be that the only way to come to terms with the murder or rape of a loved one is to forgive the perp. This notion has gained serious traction. In days gone by it was only the Man Upstairs who could pardon and absolve. Now everybody is taking a crack at it.
It’s easy to blame Oprah for the hug-it-out quick fix, but I think the responsibility lies with ourselves. We have all gotten a little squishy and confused. I suggest that we take a breath and try to sort the forgivable from the unforgivable. Here’s a start: If some drunken jerk wants to pick a fight or insults your choice of shoe, then by all means turn the other cheek. But rape and murder? Not so much.
Do you think there are “unforgivable crimes?” And if so, what would you classify as unforgivable?
Do you think forgiveness is necessary for a person to truly heal and move on?
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