Older Women and Younger Men – More Than Just a Hot New Trend

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Joanna Schroeder is the type of working mom who opens her car door and junk spills out all over the ground. She serves as Executive Editor of The Good Men Project and is a freelance writer whose work has appeared on sites like xoJane, hlntv.com, and The Huffington Post. Joanna loves playing with her sons, skateboarding with her husband, and hanging out with friends. Her dream is to someday finish her almost-done novel and get some sleep. Follow her shenanigans on Twitter.

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  1. What do you think about relationships that break the traditional older-man/younger-woman mold?

    Frankly I don’t think about them much at all – I’ve been too busy myself having relationships with other men where there have been age differences as high as 45+!

    Athletic, Body Building, Church Ministers Academics (Prof) don’t come along that often – so one does have to grab them whilst one can. P^)

    Of course, as I have matured I have even had the opportunity to have a go at -20+ and then -30+!

    I do have to say that such age differences do tend to get people making comment – but as I have always pointed out to people, who think it’s their business to enquire and make comment – “it’s non of your F###ING Business!”.

    What age gap do you think works best in relationships?

    As they say “mind the gap”. I work on the relationship – age is not the issue, just as ethnic/racial origin is not the issue, or socio/economic background, or eduction (having a piece of paper does not make you intelligent), in fact I find that the only issue where a gap may have significance is sexuality – and even, that is not a deal breaker for everyone!

    • “I find that the only issue where a gap may have significance is sexuality – and even, that is not a deal breaker for everyone!”

      I dont know about that, older women are more knowledgeable about their sexuality. The best sex I ever had was actually with older women. They know what they like and they how to get it. There are other issues that may hunt down the realationship, but unless the woman wasent a ex nun sexuality isnt one of them.

      • @The Blurpo….

        The Elephant in the Room is menopause. Sexual desire drops significantly for most post-menopausal women.

        It is very difficult to find post-menopausal women who want sex more than twice a month. Hence, sexuality is a problem depending on age…Don’t kid yourself.

        If you’re in your 20s and dating a woman in her 30s, that is a different matter.

        But, I am all for women dating younger men. They really need to become more open in a number of areas. I think this will help them to become better partners.

        • ” The Elephant in the Room is menopause. Sexual desire drops significantly for most post-menopausal women.

          It is very difficult to find post-menopausal women who want sex more than twice a month. Hence, sexuality is a problem depending on age…Don’t kid yourself.

          If you’re in your 20s and dating a woman in her 30s, that is a different matter.

          But, I am all for women dating younger men. They really need to become more open in a number of areas. I think this will help them to become better partners.

          I dont know that. I only know from my experience, that the best sex I ever had was with women 40+

          My first lover in Denmark, was a adult woman in her late ’40s (I was 27). We met on a popular Danish online sex dating site , she was alot older than me and she had a thing for italian guys, so I said to myself, why not trying?. I tell you, whitout lies that in my entire life I have never again experienced that kind of sex. Hot passionate non stop wild, I have no words for it. And she was at that time, 48-49. We stop seeing each other, because I found out she was my school inspector. She went in panic, and she refused to have anything to do with me again.
          Since that day, I had no problem to also date older women, and usually when we ended up in bed and again the sexthing was memorable.

          From my experience, a woman sexually seriously blossom up in her 40′s. But im not familiar with you experiences so I cannot say. But from what I have learned uintil now, is, a older woman is much more experienced, she knows what she want, and usually they know how to get it. And since they dont bleed anymore, they relax more, because there is no more danger for them to get pregnant.

          Thats my experience.

  2. I think this is terrific.

    Women need to get out of this mindset of thinking something is wrong with dating/fucking or marrying younger men. Women do pretty much everything else they want, so what’s the big deal.

    Since younger men are less like to be high status, it would also get a lot women out of this hypergamy mindset.

    Finally, it should perk up their libidos. Did you know that of the women in this country who are between 50-69, fully 50% indicated in the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior (NSSHB) that they had zero sexual intercourse in the last year? Staggering number! And, nearly 45% of the women in the survey were married. That’s even worse.

    I think the trend or whatever you wish to call it is just great.

  3. “GMP contributor Charlie Capen of How To Be A Dad talks about his marriage to the lovely Avara, 8 years his senior, and what life is like as the boy-toy of the relationship:”
    The term “boy-toy” is quite insulting to the husband and denigrates their relationship. Can’t we just treat them as any normal couple and not as a curiosity.
    “What do you think about relationships that break the traditional older-man/younger-woman mold?”
    “What age gap do you think works best in relationships?”

    Do people have to have an opinion on these issues? When two people are happy together the opinion of a third party doesn’t matter.

  4. I’m happy to date about 8 years my senior or junior. 20-35ish, I am 27. Some of the best relationships I’ve seen though have had a younger wife, I dunno why but it’s just how it seems to be. I’m sure older wife younger husband dynamic can be very successful but it all depends on the people more than their age, a dramaqueen at 20 may or may not still be one at 30. I ignore age mostly and go more for maturity levels, usually it seems to be based on decade, like 20′s, 30′s, life status (are they out of uni, do they have kids, etc). But there’s also an unknown element, that magic feeling of butterflies n falling into a big crush on them which I can’t say for sure who that will be, I’ve had feelings for women of about the 20-35ish mark.

  5. I occasionally dated older guys when I was in my 20′s-early 30′s. I found the generation gap jarring. There was a huge difference in culture between Baby Boomer men and a Gen X woman like myself. Music, politics, overall views on life, it was a constant clash. Now that I’m in my 40′s, I could see myself dating a little younger but not too much because I don’t think I could relate to the “younger generation” either. I feel most in tune with guys around my own age, maybe +/- 5 years.

  6. My long-term cohabitating partner is younger than I am. He is also the most wonderful person I have ever dated, in all ways, and a true equal when it comes to emotional depth/stability, intellectual curiosity, philosophy of life, and basic values. We have similar backgrounds, educations, and professional employment as well as some of the same interests, and are great pals as well as romantic partners. All of those things trump any artificial expectations about who should be the older of the two in a couple.

    I’ve dated people younger, older, and the same age as me. Once you’re out of college/past your 20s, it’s not so much age difference as general maturity, shared interests, and how well you click overall. Having your $hit together doesn’t necessarily correlate with age, and there are more important factors to consider when choosing a partner, either for the short or long term!

  7. I can’t date men my age, they are way to insecure, prejudiced and quite frankly, limited. I’ve been on dates with -5 than me and they are much more fun and more open-minded to all aspects of life. Madonna and J-Lo, I understand you. I know it is not exactly a generation issue, that there are older, more open minded man, just not sure if still on the market…

  8. I totally agree with older women/younger men relationship is a good experience for younger men. Older women needs to be more with younger men. I love seeing older women with younger men. They can teach younger men alot of things.

  9. There are not many responses to this subject here, whys that? Is it because this a mans magazine and men dont really care about the age gap as much as women do? I see all sorts of reactions from women, tak e just marriage of Sam Taylor Johnson to Aaron(20 years her junior). They where crucified when they started dating, and now after 4 years and 2 kids together, media opinion has mellowed down. Im a woman in my 40es and this summer was relentlessly pursued by 20year olds. I was very worried about getting romantically involved because of the age difference, but he didnt care. I was also aware that i was better off financially and that this was important to him. It the classic genetic requirement of men having to be better off financially changed because of current economic climate? Loads of young men are without job prospects and older women with their own house and good job are certainly more attractive then young girls with same issues to young guys. What do you men think about it?

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