Wednesday’s edition of the Chicago Tribune featured a story by Alexia Elejalde-Ruiz that explores relationships between younger men and older women.
The piece, Age Gap: She’s Old Enough to Be His… Wife (one of the best titles I’ve read in a while), GMP contributor Charlie Capen of How To Be A Dad talks about his marriage to the lovely Avara, 8 years his senior, and what life is like as the boy-toy of the relationship:
“When she’d start to talk about Duran Duran or Erasure, I was like, ‘What are you talking about?’” said Charlie Capen, now 31 and married to Avara, 39, for eight years.
Aside from light teasing about divergent pop culture references, and occasional jokes that Avara will trade Charlie in for a younger model, the age gap barely registers in their romance, even as society still looks askance at the pairing of an older woman with a younger man.
Even more exciting, GMP’s own Editor-in-chief Noah Brand spills the goods about a relationship he had with a woman 19 years his senior, as well as the reasons he appreciates having relationships with women who are older:
Noah Brand, 35, said recently he has preferred dating older women after several relationships with younger women “melted down in drama storms.” With older women, “you get less drama, better communication,” he said.
“It’s nice to be dating someone who is on equal footing as you or even knows more than you, has been places you haven’t,” said Brand, who lives in Portland, Ore., and is the editor in chief of The Good Men Project, a social movement that explores modern manhood.
Brand dated a woman 19 years older for several months, when he was 32 and she was 51, and said comparing different generational touchstones made it interesting.
What do you think about relationships that break the traditional older-man/younger-woman mold? Have you ever dated a woman significantly older than you?
What age gap do you think works best in relationships?
Also read Recovering Her Youth With Duran Duran by Charlie Capen