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About Aaron Gouveia

Aaron is husband to a woman far too beautiful to have married him, and father of two sons far too perfect to be his. After nearly a decade as a Boston-area journalist, he decided to actually get paid and became a content manager. When he's not griping about his beloved Boston sports teams, he's detailing life as a dad at The Daddy Files. You can follow him on Twitter (@DaddyFiles) and Facebook.


  1. Beautifully written.
    Thank you for sharing this with us.

  2. Wow, that sounds like a terribly rough road to travel – good luck to you.

  3. Julie Gillis says:

    I relate, having been in a family with dynamics like this. Not exactly the same, but it touched me and I send you my best.

  4. I totally relate. Not the meds but dealing with a woman who resents our past. Its been 8 months and i just patiently wait and respect and accept her. Although i realize that frustrates her even more. Its a lose lose situation. Today i realized that i have to let go and i strongly advice the same. You’ll always turn out to be the enemy if you don’t allow her to do what she wants. You can’t change anybody but yourself. We have a 7 year old and its difficult living in separate homes as hes confused with whats going on. I take her out, i surprise her with gifts, i compliment her, i listen when she wants to talk about whatever shes comfortable talking about at the time.. but it all comes down to me. I choose to move on to not let a bitter, angry unforgiving woman affect my mental health. Even though i love her more than i have cared and loved for anyone. She just won’t allow herself to put her guard down and accept my gifts of a caring, determined man.

  5. Wow… that was so brave…! I have had to create distance between myself and some loved ones because I was getting banged up in their depressive monologues and acting out….either you can stand on the sidelines and watch or you can take a step back and take care of things in your own life….it is draining taking care of an emotional vampire, especially one who is borderline psychotic and on a confusing array of meds….

    Thank you for your insights…and for recognizing that her problems are not to be blamed on you….

  6. The Bad Man says:

    I cringed and I cringed and I cringed. Red flags going up everywhere, don’t be a hero, save yourself.

  7. Move Jagger says:

    It’s not fair that you’re saddled with this battle against yourself while your own mind tries to trick you and lead you astray, but this is the hand we’ve been dealt. And we’ll fight this battle again and again.

    May victory find you, and keep with you.

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