Last week, Jezebel asked for nominations for a list called “Sensitive Real Guys You Love.” They’ve just revealed the winners, who run the gamut from a boyfriend who sent a long, personal letter to the law school that rejected his girlfriend, convincing the dean to reconsider her application, to a high-school English teacher who “also coaches the school’s poetry slam team and spends 10 hours a week holding ‘office hours’ at a coffee shop to help kids with their papers and college applications,” to the stepdad who taught the writer how to “speak up and stand up for myself.”
Not too much of a stretch to say that these guys belong on our page, too. (You can read the full list here.)
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What is the criteria for judging “good” and why is goodmenproject using jezebel as a source?
It seems to me that “good” is determined more by women’s opinion rather than men’s.
Is that the purpose of goodmenproject, to make men more acceptable for women?
Are there any sites that are trying to change women to make them more acceptable for men?
The criteria are personal & dealt with via a nomination process– as the post above talks about. Anyhow, I’m a guy & I comment on Jezebel…I don’t know why there would be a problem using them as a source.
Denis, there are countless sites, media, and products aimed at making women more acceptable to men. And women themselves spend inordinate amounts of time and money trying to make themselves more acceptable to men because they’ve so internalized that mission as a priority. And when they break out of that mold of acceptable behavior (for example, by speaking their minds when they are angry about something, as the commenters at Jezebel often do), they tend to get accused of being man-haters by people like clarence, the commenter below. Sweeping (and often untrue) generalizations about women, men, feminists, people, etc. is part of what I thought GMP and Jez both were supposedly working against.
I also disagree that “good” equates to “acceptable.” Good can be defined and measured in lots of different ways, and from lots of different points of view. Jezebel gives a few individuals’ perspectives out of MANY about what it means to be a good man, and the source is cited so the information presented isn’t slipped in all sneaky-feminist-like. I hope that the readers of GMP take into consideration the ideas about good-man-liness from a broad range of sources; you don’t have to please all sides, but you can listen and try to make reasonable, informed choices. It’s my belief that both Jez and GMP want both men and women to respect each other, and for everyone to be the best man/woman/person they can be.
mordicai:
You might want to check out Jezebel’s reactions during the Duke Rape of Hoax of 2006.
They are not an impartial source, and many of them truly don’t wish your average man-who has no desire whatsoever to teach English or wear pink – well at all.
clarence, I think your mistake is investing in the idea of the “average man” (or “average woman”) in the first place. I think it’s a lot more beneficial to think of each person as an individual. Not all men are sexist, and not all (I would argue hardly any) feminists dislike men.