The Two Men We’re Overlooking in the David Petraeus Scandal

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Gordon Chaffin is a young profession in DC working in PR. When not at work, he's contemplating how to be a good man instead of listening to grad school lectures and tweeting about politics, policy, and leadership under the stealthy pseudonym @Gordon_Chaffin.


  1. I expect the husbands are feeling humiliated right now by the whole thing and kudos to them for not using the opportunity to grab the spotlight. It makes them seem a lot classier than their wives.

    • I suspect that for Dr. Kelly this affair is just another stepping stone to him and his wife’s 15 minutes- or more on the reality show circuit.
      I have no opinion vis Dr. Broadwell.

  2. When people pontificate about what’s going on in other people’s minds reveals either (1) more about the pontificator than the person being scrutinized or (2) a general low or high view of people in general.

    Probably even 10 years ago, there would be no expectation of the husbands to show anything in particular. Now, it’s like they owe us something by way of a reaction? And any reaction–any–would be used against them one way or another.

    The hope in any of these situations: That it would be an opportunity for deeper work in a marriage. If it’s irreconcilable, so be it. If not, then perhaps all four couples involved can somehow salvage and become even stronger. I always hope for the latter.

    • Chris Anthony says:

      Spot on.

    • Mike Russo says:

      Hell yes. Because this is some kind of public affair, the Drs. Scott (odd how that worked out..) OWE the public some kind of response? This isn’t a daytime soap opera. This is someone’s life, and they owe no one anything. They don’t even owe their wives loyalty, what would they owe the public?

      I hate to be stereotypical, but this is very common of The View. None of these women are educated psychologists, none of them are social scientists, what right do they have to say things that are so hurtful? Even if they had those educational backgrounds, that would still not give them a right to make a judgement call on the situation.

      This is a group of women that essentially condoned of a wife cutting off her husband’s penis, simply because he is a man, and should be able to physically defend himself. They specialize in playing off tired stereotypes that do no one but their ratings any good.

  3. I’m sure a lot is going on that we don’t see or hear…and for the sake of their families, friends, and medical practices, discretion is key….

    But we can watch Richard Gere, Diane Lane and Olivier Martinez in “Unfaithful” (or the French movie “Infidele”), for more titillation, can’t we?

  4. wellokaythen says:

    Could be, could be. We really don’t know. Drs. Kelly and Broadwell could also be thinking:

    This is the last straw, and now I don’t feel so guilty about considering divorce the way that I have all these years.

    Thank goodness I have my mistress, the true love of my life, to comfort me.

    Now I’m set free, to get married to someone I really want to get married to.

    I can’t believe she did this to me again. Fool me twice, shame on me.

    I thought it was odd that one time when he was wearing my shirt.

    He can have her. They deserve each other. Keeping them together would be punishment for both of them.

    This will make my memoirs far more interesting. There’s gotta be a book deal in here somewhere.

  5. With every passing day this site looks more and more like a tabloidy womens’ magazine.

    And I’m seriously unimpressed with the pop up ads for cosmetics.

  6. Frankly, I just don’t understand why anyone’s pecadilloes need to be public information. If there’s a potential security breach, sure, have the feds check into it. But otherwise I don’t really care who is cheating on a spouse, male or female. The media frenzy surrounding such situations literally makes me sick to my stomach. Is there really not enough real news out there?

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