“You Are Not Beautiful to Me. You Are Gorgeous to Me.”

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About Gordon Pearson

Gordon Pearson is a 27-year-old, trying to raise his 8-year-old daughter, living with the understanding that what he does now will be questioned by her as she gets older. So, he tries to practice what he preaches while learning to live and enjoy life as a single father.

Comments

  1. Thank you for this article. This is a lesson I had to learn the hard way, as described here: http://www.marginalprophetspublishing.com/1/category/loss/1.html

  2. What a wonderful insightful piece Gordon. Thanks for giving me a little view into another facet of how men see beauty.

  3. This is too cute!
    I agree, beauty goes further than what most people think. To me, it’s not just the physical attraction it’s more so the way the person interacts with others. And I also loved your description. I’m glad you’re not like most fathers chasing women to make them into a mother figure for your daughter. Thumbs up to you! :)

  4. Jun Kafiotties says:

    I know plenty of men who do not like the typical large breasts, some like larger women, some like skinnier, some darker, some lighter, every human including women have a general preference/desire/like. It’s 100% natural and this is why the mass generalizations of the male gender in particular (The GMP has quite a few articles that do this) do not serve a very good view for women to read of men. We already have enough stereotypes saying ALL men like large chested blonde baywatch types which simply is very insulting to many men who have a varied taste. Furthermore what men like to fantasize over doesn’t mean that is ALL they like and many are open to quite a variety of potential partners.

    Ladies, Gentlemen, humans like all kinds of people so do not be put off and go forth and ask out potential dates in a respectful way, what you think they like and what they really like is probably going to be very different.

  5. I think it has to be mentioned that sometimes sexual attraction isn’t just about beauty. There have been plenty of times where I have been at a party or some such and been more sexually attracted (like moth to light attracted) to the pretty girl with the amazing personality rather than someone else I might rank higher strictly according to beauty. Yes, beauty plays a huge role in sexual attraction, but just as men have different definitions of beauty, we also have different quirks about what might trump beauty when we are looking at women.

  6. Is there a norm, a quota for freckles? What is excessive? I’ve had them all my life and never felt “abnormal”.

  7. medic mind says:

    I get what you’re saying. But women have become demoralized by social standards of beauty and the impression (or fact) that men are captivated by physical attributes.
    So when she hears “you’re …beautiful to me” that translates into “Well,I find you attractive evn if other people don’t= you don’t measure up to other women= do you think I’m so pathetic that you need to lie about my looks?
    It can get that paranoid.

    • “So when she hears “you’re …beautiful to me” that translates into “Well,I find you attractive evn if other people don’t= you don’t measure up to other women= do you think I’m so pathetic that you need to lie about my looks?”

      yup.

      And how pathetic is our culture that we even have someone writing an article like this? So much energy wasted negotiating the profound degree to which we all conspire to reduce women to objects.

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