The Longest Hug: A Father’s Goodbye To His Sons

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About Alan Bishop

Alan's a writer, television producer and adventurer. He is 20 years into a lifetime of loving with his wife and is a proud Dad to two young men (21 and 18). Through his website The 365  Alan works with individuals and corporations helping them make positive Change while focusing on Being Better Everyday.  Alan's a dedicated fitness enthusiast, a Crossfitter as well as a lifelong lover of the game of golf. You can follow him @the365effect


  1. Alan, this is a a rite of passage for both you and your sons. For them, it is a journey to to experience all that you have prepared them for and for you, it’s letting them go to experience life.

    What I appreciate about your post is your honesty about how difficult this is for you and how you are adjusting. I commend you fro raising young men who are not afraid of taking chances and feel confident enough to take this trip. Bravo to you and your wife!

  2. Alan Bishop says:

    Hi Marie (or MRJ),

    Thanks very much for the kind words. It’s a learning experience for sure and I am really hoping to help and touch others through this experience. It makes me a better man and Dad in the process.


  3. John Anderson says:

    My nephew wants to move to Thailand to learn muay thai. That’s the same nephew who whined about taking an illegal hit in a tournament. What’s he going to do when knees and elbows are legal? Last fight he lost (he started it and got no sympathy from me), he cried to his mom. On the other hand, like my father I truly believe that life is to be experienced. All life is a risk so even though his parents and grandma are against it, I think let him go. He’s almost 19.

    I understand where you’re coming from. After all the stupid things I did in my youth, I’ve half surprised I’m still here. I understand the difference is you can’t help them, but they can’t be worse than I was in my youth. Sometimes you just have to hope for the best.

    • Alan Bishop says:

      Thanks John,

      Yes, I’m hoping for the best for sure. It’s a grand adventure they are on and I get a front row seat. I left home and was on my own at 15 years old with zero support from my parents so I know they are in a much better place than I was and their also together. What a gift this is for them and something that will bond them for a lifetime.

  4. Alan I understand the ache, and in some ways it never goes away. But the pride that comes from watching them turn into amazing human beings. Its unbelievable!! The first time they wrestle you or outwit you into paying the check at dinner….or they call and say “I’m bringing the steak, the family, and I’m cooking cause we are coming to visit, just cause we want to see you!” That feeling will make the ache seem like nothing……until the call comes…there has been an “incident at work” he’s o.k. but on his way to hospital and it looks like surgery…..then all the parenting comes rushing back and all you want to do is fix it. I guess what I am saying is its temporary, the ache, and its replaced with different and amazing stuff, but you never stop being their parent you just do it differently and its amazing!!

    • Alan Bishop says:

      Thanks for the thoughts Trish.
      I’m already seeing and hearing some of the amazing stuff. It’s been nice to get a few updates from the boys and they are having the adventure of a lifetime. It is amazing and I’ve moved more into appreciation for this grand adventure that they are on.

      So true… we NEVER stop being a parent. It just is a part of who we are.

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