Robert Downey Jr. and Mel Gibson: Two Good Men “Hugging the Cactus”

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  1. Forgiveness isn’t about validating or agreeing with one’s behavior. Forgiveness is about accepting that others are human, and fallible. We are all doing the best we can in this life, with what we are equipped with.

  2. Just saw a movie called “Devil” …. I’d suggest watching it in that it has a great mssg about forgiveness.

  3. Joanna Schroeder says:

    Steve, I really agree with Downey here, and I adore him (I’ve met him a few times). He’s a great guy.

    And I do believe that he deserves forgiveness, but I’d love to see an open-hearted quest for it from Gibson himself. Has he done that yet?

    I presume he has with his family, but if he wants forgiveness from the public, he’ll need to do it publicly. Maybe he has. I’m not up on the gossip.

    But I think Downey’s sentiments are absolutely true about forgiveness in general. And I like “Hugging the Cactus”… Pretty great phrase.

    Thanks for sharing this.

  4. Wow. Great piece, Steve!

  5. I don’t know.

    He has to admit his homophobia,racism and assh*lism first before he deserves any forgiveness.

    I say that because people need to SEE HIM for who he is first. Otherwise,we’re just giving him a pass.

    Admit his crimes first.

  6. Barbara Gauthier says:

    So am I to understand that forgiveness only comes if one gives apologies first? I was under the belief that forgiveness is given whether the other person apologizes or not… It is for the benefit of those doing the forgiving… not those who are forgiven.
    As to Mel apologizing about being what JJ says well it isn’t our place to judge him either…Mel has to deal with that with his God! Is JJ not doing the same thing to Mel that Mel did to others. We are to love the sinner not the sin so their for whether there is an apology on Mel’s part or not should not come into account as to whether we forgive Mel or not. Would it be nice to have an apology, sure it would but not getting one and still forgiving him is not giving him a free pass. He know he did wrong… As a Christian we believe homosexuality is a sin… love the sinner doesn’t mean we accept the sin nor does believing it is a sin make us homophobic!! Racism is not acceptable from anyone as God made the races… And drunkenness is also a sin! It does I believe somewhere in the bible say be not drunk with wine something to that effect but we do forgive the alcoholic as well… we don’t however accept his life style… of being drunk! Does that make us Drunkaphobics ? Sigh if people would work more at just forgiving without attaching conditions just as we should love others without conditions… people would much sooner see their errors and start to live a better life. What I think anyway. This is only my thoughts of which I am entitled without being judged. I say this without prejudice.

  7. Barbara Gauthier says:

    Opps my bad still moderating the first one… sorry didn’t know it would take that long Oh well I live with what ever…

  8. None of us deserves forgiveness, Steve. That’s one reason why it’s so powerful.

  9. Everyone deserves forgiveness. The person you forgive doesn’t have to be your friend, and you are not obligated to agree with him, but forgiveness should be unconditional.

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