An unexpected glimpse into her husband’s past relationship gives Renee Lute another reason to keep romance alive in the present.
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If Zach and I were having actual marital problems, this piece would be much more dramatic. We aren’t, so it isn’t. But we aren’t in the early days of dating. We aren’t engaged and filled with excitement over our impending wedding. We’re not newlyweds, still tan with our bellies full of honeymoon wine. No, Zach and I have been married for a few years, and we’re expecting our second child in January.
I love this Karen…really enjoyed reading about a positive experience a woman had with her partner’s ex. And I also loved reading an article about what a wonderful man your husband is. I think women tend to overlook the good things sometimes when it comes to the men in their lives. I am blessed to have a few really affectionate, attentive, appreciative men who accept me for who I am. They are interested in my spiritual growth above anything else. Thanks again for bringing joy into my world today.
Karen, what you said about insecurity really resounded with me. Thank you for explaining that in such a different light!
Great article Renee, wonderful attitude. Joy, thanks for sharing your experience as well. I would like to add that personally it depends on my daily mood whether I am more in tune with Renee’s happiness attitude or also a little jealous like you are. In fact, with my first long term boyfriend I used to be quite jealous of his ex who was part of his circle of friends from back home and he thus even saw her at Christmas time. Later, I read somewhere in an article: “If she was sp perfect, she would not be the ex.” And… Read more »
Renee, this is a beautiful piece, but I must admit you are a strong woman. I don’t think I would be able to read ex’s journal. The farthest I ever read was a text message from his ex asking to take her back and when he declined she wrote back (a few weeks later) to inform him that she had ‘replaced’ him with someone Exactly like him – dresses like him, talks like him, same profession etc – and I was totally Freaked out. Just the fact that he still communicates with his Exes is traumatic to me. I have… Read more »
Joy, thank you for your honesty! I really can relate to what you’re feeling. In the beginning, when Zach and I were dating, I definitely dealt with insecurity, because I really only had one ex, while he had several. He stayed in touch with a couple of them as well, and it took time before I felt comfortable with that. I think, in your situation, the important part of what you’re saying is that your significant other declined when his ex asked him to take her back. He was consciously choosing you and your relationship, which means he’s very much… Read more »
Thanks, Adam! I know – rereading, I also wish it were a little longer. But writing with a toddler is kind of like picking apples with a rabid hyena. Sometimes you’re glad just to get half a bushel full.
A really cute article. Wish it would’ve been a little longer so I could have really lost my self in it, but really sweet anyway.