Why Manhood is More Than Grit

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Kaleb is a student at a small liberal arts college in the Northeast. His primary interests are history, politics, and procrastinating. He has worked briefly as an EMT and a tour guide in a history museum.


  1. The author thinks that manhood is wage slavery, it has to be earned perpetually.

    • Clearly that’s what someone who doesn’t currently hold a job thinks. It’s not like I mentioned self reflection or charity at the end at all.

  2. Richard Aubrey says:

    I got confused between the headline and the article. Is it the case that a single achievement isn’t as laudable as daily being good?
    What makes anybody think that being good every day doesn’t take grit?
    George Stewart, in his preface to “Pickett’s Charge” suggests it does. Referring to the lessons of the battle:. “Must not each of us once, if not every day, hear the call to rise, and cross the field, and go up against the guns?”
    Does it take grit to invite an aged parent to visit from assisted living when you know there’s a fair chance you’ll be cleaning up the bathroom?
    To keep trying to communicate with a troubled child, taking the inevitable crap?
    To keep working at a lousy job?
    Not getting this.

  3. Brian Reinholz says:

    I think the author’s point is that the small, daily decisions we make are what make us who we are. Oftentimes these are unseen by others and don’t always carry the stereotypical heroism. They’re rarely easy. They don’t always have good consequences. But there is a virtue in making those decisions nonetheless.

  4. Richard Aubrey says:


    Agreed. But the small,daily decisions can be considered “upstream”, against present interests or fun, in the direction of difficulty.
    The three examples I gave were small, daily decisions. Can’t do those without grit. True, it’s invisible grit, but so what?

    • Brian Reinholz says:

      Yup, I agree. I guess I took the author’s definition of grit as a bit more tongue-in-cheek, implying some kind of ‘True Grit’ machoism.

      I think the examples you gave are exactly what he’s describing as good…but I could’ve misunderstood.

      • Mhm, that’s what I meant exactly. Grit alone (like the kind of true grit, tounge-in-cheeck kind) is not enough. The important things are those small daily decisions that you described, which require some form of toughness and grit, and a direction and sense of right and wrong.

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