Reasons I Have Rejected Guys Based on Their OkCupid Profiles

 In her latest tongue-in-cheek post, Bridget Callahan offers a list of reasons for shooting down potential OkCupid suitors.  


Mentions morals he inherited from his grandfather in first five sentences: Even if your grandfather is dead, it is still very unsexy to mention that basically you don’t believe in women’s rights and think that Russia is planning the downfall of the American empire. Everyone knows it’s China.


Three references to finding an “*HONEST*” woman in the same profile: There can be two interpretations of this. Either you always hook up with women who lie and cheat, which means you probably lie and cheat yourself, or you’ve convinced yourself that every woman who ever dumped or rejected you had alternate motivations besides the fact that they just didn’t like you.


Lists NCIS as a favorite TV show: Yes, I have been sucked into Mark Harmon marathons too. But think about what stating that a Navy cop show that regularly features the Coast Guard intercepting terrorists is your FAVORITE show says about you. Moreover, real goths don’t dress like that at work. They also don’t pass government background checks.


“I have a 1-year-old daughter and an open marriage”: Asshole.


All his profile photos are with other women: Now, I think having some photos with other people is a good thing.  After all, it’s evidence that you sometimes leave your house. But you know what I’ve learned from your ten photos at bars with blonde girls in halter tops? That you prefer blondes in halter tops. So actually maybe that was your point? If so, well done.


Staind. Is mentioned. At all.: Except in the context of “I would rather have my dick cut off than listen to Stained, and yes I know that’s not how it’s spelled, but I have too much respect for the English language to go along with this travesty.”


Any innuendo pertaining to his skill at cunnilingus: It is much appreciated when guys are good at giving head. But we’re not guys, and we’re not just going to hook up with the girl at the bar who proclaims her blowjob skills loudest. And we’re going to think you are trashy, and the mental image of your skater cut in between our legs is sort of ridiculous and pathetic. No one is ever going to get head from you and suddenly realize you’re a real person and they want to get to know you and maybe love you. Girls learn this in high school. Catch up.


Wearing a hood in profile photo: Yeah, you look hardcore dude. I certainly have no qualms about getting into a car with you, and I don’t think you live with your parents at all. Not even a little.


Background of profile photo is obviously a condo bathroom: You couldn’t take ten minutes to try and position your chest so I couldn’t see your Suave and dirty towel hanging behind you?


Prefers cats over dogs: What kind of soulless freak believes this?


Thinks astrology signs are “fun to talk about”: Translation – believes in ghosts.


Mentions divorce in self-summary, along with love of jetskis: Wrinkled balls, probably. Also loves scotch and crying after sex.


Thinks air is essential item he could not live without: Have some imagination, broham.


“I’m a nice guy who’s been treated badly, but I’m a survivor”: This guy is so obviously a serial killer, I’m actually scared of the fictional him I’m picturing in my head right now. This guy is the reason there are whole books devoted to teaching girls after a breakup that just because he called you crazy doesn’t mean you were.


Prefers to stay home with Netflix, and acts like this is a virtue: This is exactly why you don’t have a girlfriend.


The word “relationship”: Go hire a marriage matchmaker. I think they call it “paying for”.


Lists his skills as cooking and sarcasm: Congratulations, you are a super trendy ass who had no life before he got Instagram and the Internet.


Responds to my one-sentence intro email with a request to phone sex chat: This isn’t Craigslist. Also be aware I will be writing a caption on that picture of your dick, and it will probably make a joke about how it looks like a single serving of Napoleon ice cream.


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About Bridget Callahan

Bridget Callahan wants to meet this generation's Hemingway, and have him cheat on her profusely. She writes one of those blog things at and currently attends UNCW.


  1. Peter von Maidenberg says:

    Prefers cats over dogs: What kind of soulless freak believes this?

    I like ’em both. You’re cruisin’ for sorrow if you want a Hemingway type who doesn’t like kitties.

  2. I just find it amazing how some people judge other people based off of what is portrayed on a profile online without actually meeting and getting to know a person live and in person. I’ve met quite a few people off of dating sites that portray nothing of what they project in their profile. Some were a good match in person that were not a good match online and vice versa. Most of them i clicked better with them as friends or even sexually but not romantically.

  3. Hank Vandenburgh says:

    I’m strikin’ out on cats and astrology. Dogs are messy, and they’re time sucks. I’ve done professional astrology. It works better than the Meyers-Briggs.

    My wife is a marathon-NCIS watcher, and I can’t stand it, so kudos on that one. We made a deal where I don’t watch much CNN, and she forgoes a lot of NCIS.

  4. The first post I’ve read here since I swore off the site when it got over-run by MRAs. Hi Bridget!

  5. Good, leave all the cat loving guys to me.

    • My thoughts exactly. “Has cats” = extra points.

      I admit I laughed and nodded at the cunnilingus bit, though. Otherwise good profiles get a little sad trombone when I come to the part where they’re talking about their cunnilingus skillz. I’m all for sexy sex but… ew, dude that I haven’t even met yet…

  6. Wow….

    A lot of these I’ve read on WOMEN’s profiles and I am not quick to reject them.

    But really, size and shape shaming, general single guy shaming, blatant hypocrisy (isn’t that a hoodie in the author photo?)…. Why is this on this site?

    • I’ve been terribly unimpressed with the spate of “list” articles lately. Lots of shaming and “humor” at the expense of men who are “uncool,” or whatever, but not a lot of discussion about what a good man (or good person, for that matter, or a good life or good spirit) really is.

  7. I continue to maintain that the best profile for a guy on a dating website is to write nothing, and simply put a photo of yourself with a $100 bill taped to your forehead.
    Sit back and watch the magic begin.

  8. I’ve gotten some feedback that I have a shitty presumptuous arbitrary attitude, and I hate open relationships. The first part is of course completely true. The second part is not. I just don’t know of any couple in their first year of raising a baby who has to time to sleep with each other, let alone other people.

    • *Raises hand*. Of course, those were existing other partners and blah blah. Point is, people are different, some thing are outside my experience, outside what I’d want to do, outside what I think is a good idea. Doesn’t make the people doing those things assholes (but probably means I wouldn’t try to have a relationship with them)

  9. I’m a bit confused. For some time now, GMP has been running these “list” posts. By and large, the concept appears to be to find someone – preferably someone who is good at writing a funny text – to write a text that says “1) here’s my preference on subject A, and 2) people who have a different preference are idiots. 3) and probably assholes”. And I can’t figure out what the point might be?

    Why are GMP running these posts? Purely for entertainment value? Or is there an idea that these posts somehow further the discussion that is central to GMP? In other words, are these posts meant simply as comic relief?

    My apologies to Bridget for putting this here – it’s really not about the specifics of your posts, but I can’t think of anywhere else to put the comment. I trust you won’t mind me piggybacking too much.

    • I am extremely good at writing funny texts – truth.

      However, good lord, I hope this has no deeper purpose than comic relief. Except the nice guy part, I’m so dead serious about that one.

  10. Aww. After that last sentence I’m never eating Napoleon ice cream again.


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