So, apparently advice books –> movies is the new thing? Presumably started by the execrable He’s Just Not That Into You, one of the few movies to pass neither the Bechdel Test nor the Reverse Bechdel Test*, the trend includes What To Expect When You’re Expecting, which in a triumph of sexism does not appear to have any female main characters in a movie based on a book about pregnancy. And the subject of my current ire, i.e., Think Like A Man.
Think Like A Man is based on Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man, which is a book that is full of wise quotes like the following:
“Nothing on this planet can compare with a woman’s love—it is kind and compassionate, patient and nurturing, generous and sweet and unconditional. Pure. If you are her man, she will walk on water and through a mountain for you, too, no matter how you’ve acted out, no matter what crazy thing you’ve done, no matter the time or demand… Well, I’m here to tell you that expecting that kind of love— that perfection—from a man is unrealistic.”
Yes, really. I cannot tell if it is more offensive to women, insofar as they are expected to live up to an unrealistic ideal of perfect self-sacrificing love that no human being could actually fulfill, or to men, insofar as apparently being kind, compassionate, and patient is too difficult for the gender that brought us St. Francis of Assisi and Martin Luther King and Gandhi.
I will now tell you the good bits about the movie, insofar as I can tell from the trailer, which I have watched so you don’t have to:
- It has tons of people of color in it.