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Ozy Frantz is a student at a well-respected Hippie College in the United States. Zie bases most of zir life decisions on Good Omens by Terry Pratchett and Neil Gaiman, and identifies more closely with Pinkie Pie than is probably necessary. Ozy can be contacted at [email protected] or on Twitter as @ozyfrantz. Writing is presently Ozy's primary means of support, so to tip the blogger, click here.


  1. Great article! :)

    Totally with you on the normalisation thing. It’s great to have people outwardly saying ‘girls can do anything boys can!’ but when that sort of message comes up too often it almost seems to encourage the idea that girls in general can’t, if that makes sense? Like all those kids shows where all the boys expect the girls to do badly at sports and are really shocked when they do well – I’m sure many kids would just get the impression that girls can SOMETIMES be good at sports, but it’s really rare and a big deal when it happens. Which clearly isn’t the intended effect! But if kids could now and then just see boys being awesome and girls being awesome and people being awesome without gender always having to come up at all I think that would help out gender equality a lot more.

  2. Mark Sherman says:

    In lauding the appearance of Sonia Sotomayor on Sesame Street, you point out that Hispanic women earn only 60% of what white men make. That is terrible, but perhaps a more appropriate comparison would be with Hispanic men. There the difference is much smaller, with Hispanic women earning 91% of what their male counterparts make (a big improvement over 1980, when it was 71%).

    While any situation where women do not get equal pay for equal work is wrong, it is at least nice to see the gap closing. However, part of the reason for its closing is that young men are not doing as well as young women in terms of education (e.g., 57% of college students are female, and a college degree means much more money over one’s lifetime).

    The fact is that from female Supreme Court justices, Senators, CEOs, physicians, attorneys, and the like, girls and young women are getting the message everywhere that they can reach for the stars. The final paragraph has a very different implication for boys and young men. Ozy writes, “One of the things I find interesting is trying to imagine the comparable sketch for boys. It’s perhaps a sign of how little our culture values traditionally feminine jobs that I can’t think of a time a nurse, teacher, or stay-at-home dad has showed up to tell boys that they can be anything they want to be too.”

    Well, there is something very different about telling a girl she can aspire to be a Supreme Court justice and telling a boy that he can aspire to be a stay-at-home dad. Maybe someday stay-at-home dads (not to mention stay-at-home moms) will have as much prestige as Supreme Court justices, but I think that day is far off into the future. In any case, we’re certainly not encouraging our girls to have stay-at-home-parenthood be their highest aspiration. So why should we do that with our boys?

  3. I loved this video, but regarding your comment about the equivalent for boys—when I was growing up in the eighties, there was a program called Rainbow and on one episode, Bungle (a huge male bear) said when he grew up he wanted to be a nurse, and Zippee (an obnoxious yellow loudmouth) said boys can’t be nurses, and then Geoffrey (the Standard Adult) said yes they could, and they had a whole segment about male nurses.

    Sadly I can’t find the video online …

  4. Who are Muppets #2 and #5?

  5. I went on a date with Sonia Sotomayor once. We split the check 5-4.

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