Nothing makes me sadder than to have to defend Donald Trump. Nevertheless, a blogger’s work is never done, particularly when Stephen Colbert keeps making jokes that upset me.
[Transcript of relevant bits: “Mr. Trump, I will write you a check for one million dollars from Colbert SuperPAC, you know I’ve got it, to the charity of your choice. Anything– Save The Children, Feed The Children, Put The Children On Child Apprentice, whatever. One million actual dollars if you will let me dip my balls in your mouth. But this dipping– and I hope you’re listening, Mr. Trump– this dipping has to be to my, and more importantly my balls’, satisfaction… Nothing would make me happier than to write this check, and nothing would make America happier than to have something going into your mouth instead of coming out of it.”]
Fun fact: it is not okay to make jokes that hinge on sex being the best possible way to humiliate someone and express your dominance over them. That is an integral part of rape culture and the motivation behind many rapists, who are often angry at their partners (for instance, for daring to reject them) and chose to express their dominance over their partner by raping them. It leads to rape survivors feeling humiliated, like someone has beaten them, when they think about their violation. Not to mention the integral role that idea plays in slut-shaming, misogyny, and really fucking awful sex.
The alleged joke also depends on gay sex and sex that one is paid for being shameful, which is incredibly homophobic and whorephobic. No sex act that one freely chooses to do with one’s own body is shameful, including selling sex and homosexuality. And there are these really nasty implications of sexual assault, which frankly make me feel creepy inside.
Second fun fact: it does not matter if you are a famous liberal comedian, and if your target is someone that everyone wishes would shut up and go away. It is still not okay to make whorephobic, homophobic, rape-culture-y jokes. The same standards apply to everyone. And frankly I am appalled to see this particular clip being passed around by feminists, by sex-positive people, by people whose politics and sense of empathy I respected.
Sex is not shameful, Stephen Colbert, but this joke is.
Photo– DonkeyHotey/Flickr. The donkey and elephant symbols of the US Democratic and Republican Parties.