The first chapter of What About The Men? appeared on AlterNet and has been the most popular for days! Apparently there are more people than one would suppose who are interested in reading nine pages of Ozy and Noah Define Assorted Gender Terms.
Ozy Frantz
I wrote a thing about men and therapy for Role/Reboot ages and ages ago and I don’t think I ever showed you guys. Here it is!
I also have acquired a Tumblr where I talk mostly about books I’ve just finished reading. Also, I brainvomit things that are too long for Twitter and reblog other people’s chatlogs with me in them. This is probably of no interest to anyone, but if it strikes you as your sort of thing, have at it.
Noah Brand
At the Good Men Project: Noah regrets finishing high school. A Kickstarter you should fund. Further thoughts on toplessness. A health care convert. Why being a good man is definitely a feminist issue no matter what some people say.
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I may as well put up my Weekly Mashup from this past weekend.
April is pissed about the unrelenting of some of the guys that just don’t know when to quit.
Interesting how in the “further thoughts on toplessness” comments, there’s a lot of people claiming that women’s breasts are different and therefore sexual (and similar things along those lines). I’m not posting there because it’s over a week old so not many of those people will still be reading the comments, but…
When I was growing up, my family was poor, and there were six of us (including my cousin who lived with us for a time) and we doubled up on baths/showers in order to save water. There was no segregation of the sexes in this, and occasionally someone would do something in the bathroom while others were bathing or showering. While we didn’t really run around naked, we also didn’t bother to hide getting dressed or undressed (aside from avoiding uncovered windows that faced into the front yard). It wasn’t a big deal until other people found out about it and were horrified at my parents (and it wasn’t even due to any of the kids talking about it; my mother did that) but by that time all but the youngest of us had passed puberty.
Results: nudity = not sexual. Not even if the other person is very attractive. Seriously, it’s not a turn on at all. As an adult I’ve spoken to nudists, and while not all of them share that kind of childhood experience, they all agree – once you get used to it, it’s nothing. I’m fairly certain that any claims about *any* part of the anatomy being inherently sexual are wrong. They’re sexual only because enough people believe they are.
(If anyone wonders what I *do* find a turn-on, it’s certain articles of clothing, rope bondage, and people having actual sex. The latter works better if they’re people or characters whom I’m familiar with; random stranger porn doesn’t hold my interest for long. It’s not like I’m asexual or anything.)