Hi. I’m Julie Gillis and I’m a feminist.
It’s like an admission, isn’t it? A vulnerability of sorts to state who you are and why you are here? Or perhaps it’s just how we all have learned to compartmentalize ourselves, here in America, in western culture, a method that has caused GMP founder to query himself, about how this affects manhood.
What on earth do labels mean, I wonder this often. In absolutely no particular order, I’m a feminist, a humanist, a secular spiritual pantheistic agnostic, a community builder, a mother, a daughter, a sex positive activist for LGBTQ rights and for the radical expression of pleasure and relationships, a locavore advocate for CSAs and food and (wow what a coinkydink) the radical expression of pleasure and health,a wife, a damn good worker, a lover of bourbon and red wine, a walker, a dancer, a middled aged woman, a white person (probably over educated), privileged (oh yes, honey, I DID use that word), a fan of documentaries, a producer of theater, a performer of comedy and a writer.
And a lot more.
I like men. I’m married to one, and have two boykids. I’ve been writing about men and supporting The Good Men Project now for about nine months or so. As way of introduction again (and caveating all my future posts), I thought I’d list out the things I believe in and am for just to get that stuff out of the way.
I believe men are human beings. I believe men are influenced as negatively by sexism and teh patriarchy as are women. It’s a big-ass system y’all, and it’s like the water we swim in so how could we all not be influenced. I think men have been and will continue (until such time as we heal the world), sexually assaulted and raped and that it’s bullshit and horrible and should be addressed, hard core, by our government and society. I believe men should have more reproductive (birth control) options. I think that this whole disposability issue is related less to gender and much more to power and control of the populus, that boys need different things than girls do in school BUT it can’t be essentialized into a binary cause there are boys that do better in more “female” focused spaces and vice versa, but that the more attention we can give our boys to address their actual needs, the better.
I think men deserve love and compassion and connection and that often that does indeed look entirely different than how women need it (and expect it) and I do actually see flaws in any “ism” that has wound up making money and careers and political policy out of activism. So yeah, that would include feminism.
I’m gonna be writing with Ozy because I like hir style. And because yeah, I’m a feminist and I figure we can figure this polemic thing out in a way that actually helps rather than hurts and I want to be a part of that.
Any q’s? I’ll be happy to answer.