Massive trigger warning for description of rape.
Transcript: White words on black screen: “I knew him.” Splitscreen man driving a car and woman sitting on the stairs. Woman: “I knew him. We’d had friends in common but we’d never really been introduced.” Man: “One night at this party, we got to talking.” “He had a really nice voice.” “Incredible eyes. Smile.” “I don’t know, he made me feel sexy.” “So then all of a sudden it’s like two in the morning and all of my friends had taken off.” “So he offered me a ride home.” “But instead we went up to this overlook.” “No one around. Totally isolated.” “And we kissed.” “Which is really nice.” “Things started moving pretty quickly.” “Too quickly.” “You know the story, one minute things are fine…” “And the next, I’m feeling things are definitely not fine.” “And, you know, I’m pushing. Trying to get him off.” “You know I think of myself as a pretty strong guy.” “Trying to get some air. And, you know, I was saying stop.” “Why are you being like this?” “And he didn’t stop.” “He didn’t stop.” Simultaneously: “He raped me.”
Gray words on white screen: male, straight, gay, transgender, Asian, Latin, white, bisexual, lesbian, black, butch, femme, twink, bear, rich, homeless, single, young, unconscious, sober, married, high, elderly, disabled, awake, Jewish, Christian, religious, suburban, tall, short, muscular, stocky. In the center: “It can happen to anyone, but it’s never too late to get help. 800.656.HOPE. online.rainn.org.”
@Fnord
Didn’t the CDC stats show 79.2% of males forced to penetrate were raped by a female?
We gals need to get over ourselves. stop believing almost all males with compliments and pleas for help, get going with self-defense techniques, mediate to develop higher intuitive abilities, AND—–
pay more attention to our sons, brothers, fathers, nephews, cousins, male neighbors and friends safety and rape-prevention skill needs!!!! YES, we do!!! Thank goodness for this ad–very effective–and thank YOU for posting it here!
This ad is a baby step in the right direction, as it publicly acknowledges one aspect of male rape but RAINN needs to step up. It isn’t about the “low hanging fruit” and easing into the subject. Men are raped by women. it is a fact. People need to be made aware even if they don’t want to acknowledge it. Put it out there. Female on male rape is an ugly horrible truth but it is still truth and men deserve to have it acknowledged publicly. As long as society can deny it and sweep it under the rug and… Read more »
After actually watching the thing i caught even more messages from the “dont be gay” campaign, notice on the last screen the possible objects of rape appear in a sequence “men” “gay” and then somewhat faster come “women” “transjender” and the rest just pop out almost together. Subliminal messages dont have to be intentional, they just have to be, so without saying the creators meant it to be anti gay, they done a pretty good job in going that way, instead of making man rape and rape culture more apparent they make it somone alse’s (gay men) problem, so dont… Read more »
“I think, by and large, when you say “male-on-male rape” to the average person, odds are the first thing they’ll think of is prison” Speaking of prison rape, and inaccurate public perceptions of rape… It seems that the popular conception of prison rape is inmate on inmate rape. But in fact, there’s evidence that inmates are raped by staff as or even more frequently. From the National Prison Rape Elimination Commission: “More prisoners reported abuse by staff than abuse by other prisoners: 2.9 percent of respondents compared with about 2 percent. (Some prisoners reported abuse by other inmates and staff.)”… Read more »
arbib: Without relating to a woman to man rape this seems to add to the “dont be gay cause they” campaign, if in the 1970s and 1980s it was “dont be gay cause they got AIDS” and in the 1990s it was “dont be gay cause youll be rejected by everyone around you”, in the 2000s it was “dont be gay cause you wont get married”, and “dont be gay cause youll lose your job”, it seems that this decade is about to be opend with a “dont be gay cause they rape men” campaign, started last year with the… Read more »
Regarding relationship to perpetrator, which seems to be the central point of the PSA: Per the CDC study, 44.8% of males who suffered rape by envelopment were raped by an intimate partner (current or former), and a further 44.7% were raped by an acquaintance, compared with 51.1% and 40.8% for female victims of rape (and [not enough data] and 52.4% for male victims of penetrative rape). So that’s in the ballpark. The CDC study doesn’t break out forced and drugs/alcohol-facilitated “made to penetrate”, because they don’t count that as rape, and doesn’t have stats on perpetrator alcohol use at all.… Read more »
@Fnord: While it’s not helpful to try to say *all* male perpetrated rapes follow one model, from what I understand there are often common elements (involvement of alcohol or other drugs, force or threat of force, usually commited by someone the victim knows, etc).
I’m sincerely asking if those common elements also come up in female on male rape.
@Suturexself:
“Should we present female on male rape in the same way as male on female, or male on male, rape? I mean, do those types of rapes follow the same model?”
Should we assume all male on female or male on male rapes follow the same model?
Without relating to a woman to man rape this seems to add to the “dont be gay cause they” campaign, if in the 1970s and 1980s it was “dont be gay cause they got AIDS” and in the 1990s it was “dont be gay cause youll be rejected by everyone around you”, in the 2000s it was “dont be gay cause you wont get married”, and “dont be gay cause youll lose your job”, it seems that this decade is about to be opend with a “dont be gay cause they rape men” campaign, started last year with the cathphrase/joke… Read more »
I don’t know about following any models but apparently woman on man rape is funny.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D3Hhfx7FRUM
Should we present female on male rape in the same way as male on female, or male on male, rape? I mean, do those types of rapes follow the same model?
Minus the lack of people who were victims of women this was a pretty great PSA.
Hurrah for RAINN!
Interesting. I understood this not as targeting the average person in order to raise awareness that male rape survivors exist, but as targeting male rape survivors to let them know that their experiences are legitimate and that resources like RAINN exist for them too. In that light, the fact that both perpetrators in the PSA were male is less about what the “average person” is familiar with, and more about the fact that most perpetrators of rape against men are men. (That’s assuming you include prison rape, and I see no reason not to. I’m using stats from http://nplusonemag.com/raise-the-crime-rate, which… Read more »
Looks like our RAINNstorm worked!
@L: Well, obviously. My point was that while this might feel like a stretch to some ignorant people, it’s actually not a very big leap from the things they already know and accept on an intellectual level. So on some levels it’s really not much of a stretch. Once the general public is used to this sort of thing, it’ll be much easier for them to accept things that otherwise feel more “out there”.
@Not Me: I think, by and large, when you say “male-on-male rape” to the average person, odds are the first thing they’ll think of is prison or even ickybad male prostitution, and not your run-of-the-mill gay guy looking to hook up with another run-of-the-mill gay guy, to be honest.
When you expand into new areas, you go after the low-hanging fruit first. This is the low-hanging fruit. People already accept that men rape, right? And that not all men are straight? So this isn’t really much of a stretch in the eyes of the general public. Once it gets hammered home that men get raped, you can present women doing it to men as well without looking like an idiot to the ignorant people. Then pretty much anything else goes from there.
K they need to another one with a guy and a gal and have them say the same thing except replace the “he” at the end with “she”. Good to acknowledge that people outside of the heterosexual narrative are just as susceptible to rape, tho. It is a step in the right direction.
Huh… still not representing victims of women at all.
But still, progress! 🙂