“Good” or “Evil”? Not So Fast!

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  1. Thank you for writing this.

    The fact of the matter is that I cannot look at the person who abused me (and others) as anything other than evil. I understand that he also was abused and that none of us have as much free will as we’d like to think. None of that matters. This is a person who, when given the choice of good or evil, always ALWAYS took the evil route.

  2. I understand the nature of your pain, Tomio. And I think, as a victim, it might actually be beneficial to title the abuser in such a way, since it’ll help keep you from blaming yourself for something that was outside your control.

    How I feel I about this article, however, is that it’s important to remember that evil is not born, it’s caused. It’s important to remember that often times, the abuser is a victim who never healed.

    This is a very important topic to discuss in terms of men’s issues: While women very often become depressed or self-destructive when they are mistreated, ignored, held to high standards, or whatever else, men are more likely than women to lash out as though backed into a corner.

    In this way, symptoms of women’s issues tend to include more “call for help” symptoms like depression, cutting, eating disorders, and more passive suicide attempts. Symptoms of men’s issues include much of the above, but other likely symptoms include “backed into corner” symptoms, like violence, sexual assault, crime, drugs, and far more suicide successes. We don’t call for help, we try to help ourselves through immoral means.

    The reason this is important to acknowledge, is because by treating criminals as criminals alone, we only listen to the problems of women, and look to men as a demon to protect ourselves against. This is the main reason there has been less activist sympathy for men in the past. Noone wants to understand a criminal, they just want to push them away.

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