It’s no secret that the more technology evolves, the more chaos we bring into our own personal dating lives. Knowing this fact early on, I have avoided the hurdles of texting and contacting any attractive acquaintance on Facebook. I even avoided adding the Facebook Timeline and I’m telling you, if you added it, you’re just asking for trouble. (Click HERE to find out why.)
So for the last little while, I have been on cloud nine and proud of the fact that I have no dirt on me whatsoever when it comes to social media networks. You can even say I have been smug about it when listening to my boys complain to me that their girlfriends are pissed at them for accepting a friend request from an old friend. (Rookies.)
However, I didn’t account for TWITTER.
Recently, I came home and my girlfriend was not a happy camper. Apparently I was in the doghouse for tweeting too many women on my Twitter account.
Thinking this was just her insecurities, I blew it off until I recently received some emails from some fellow twiends about how their significant others are slightly perturbed over our friendly “twirting” sessions.
Give me a f*cking break.
I’m sorry, but anybody in any relationship who brings up Twitter (and doesn’t have a Twitter account, mind you) as a means of betrayal in the relationship has some insecurities to definitely sort out.
True intimacy and trust should not be broken over a two-sentence update. No relationship should be in jeopardy because you added a winking face emoticon at the end of your meaningless tweet either. Also, your loyalty shouldn’t be questioned based on your follower list!
I find Twitter to be cyber-stalker friendly because unlike Facebook, you don’t need to add somebody to read their tweets. (Unless you lock up your account and if you’re in a relationship, that just makes you look like you actually do have something to hide.) You don’t even need to have Twitter to look up on somebody’s updates either.
I’m sorry, but unless your lover tweets something like “Hey sexy! FML! my GF is nagging me 4 realz. Wanna hang out l8r? #donewithrelationships,” then you have no grounds for accusing your lover of betraying you. In fact, they should question why you’re looking for “twirt” on them in the first place.
If you’re a tweeting friend, then you know what you’re doing. You know you’re putting out things for the whole world to see and if you tweeted something that could possibly get you in trouble with your significant other, then you’re dumb as “twuck.”
The reason why I enjoy Twitter so much is because since over 60 percent of the North American population is on the social network, it gives me the chance to converse with amazing people I would have never met otherwise and the fact that I write about dating and relationships, I’m already expected to have more female readers than male readers and I won’t censor myself just so significant other can feel at ease.
And do you want to know why?
It’s because although Twitter is great, it’s not a substitute for real-life experiences and the creation of meaningful real-life relationships. I dig my Twiends, (they get me through my workday) but at the end of the day, I want to go home and spend hours saying things I couldn’t possibly fit into a hundred tweets to the woman I love and have been thinking about all day.
Sometimes, a tweet is just a tweet and if you can’t even accept that, then maybe you need to tweet your relationship good-bye. (Okay, I will stop with the Twitter analogies.)
So what do you guys think? Do you have any bad experiences with Twitter in regards to your relationships? If you dig this article, Retweet it to your followers with the hashtag, #Stopstalkingmytweets.
Originally appeared at Personal Facts.