Searching for a Unified Theory of Orgasm: Part Two

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About Clarisse Thorn

Clarisse Thorn is a feminist sex writer who has given workshops all over the USA. She wrote a book about masculinity, dating dynamics, and sex theory called Confessions of a Pickup Artist Chaser; she’s also got a best-of collection called The S&M Feminist. Recently, she released an anthology about sexual assault in virtual worlds called Violation: Rape In Gaming. Clarisse has also explored fiction with short stories like The End Of An Age: A Ramayana. To stay up-to-date with Clarisse’s work, visit her blog or follow her on Twitter.

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  1. Wow. Your ex boyfriend obviously didn’t care at all about satisfying you sexually…then had the gall to make you feel guilty/crazy about it? I’m very glad that you’re not with him anymore. Good for you for asking directly for what you wanted, however timidly. It’s not an easy thing to do. Thank you for your story!

  2. “Even after that fight, I continued dating that man for a long time.
    I look back now and I can’t imagine how I did it.”

    From all what you said, it seems to me it was mostly due to a deep lack of self-esteem.
    But, having read some of your blog, I think you’ve realized it by now. And you got back most of your self, thank God.

    PS: Again, thank you for your honesty and courage. :)

  3. “At one point, he outright shouted at me, “I don’t care about your satisfaction,””

    This cut even me… and he didnt say it to me! But I’ve felt this from someone I’ve loved and it is the most disappointment I think I’ve ever felt. I’m glad you’ve overcome this and moved on to something better. Its unfortunate when these things happen in life. But we cant appreciate the good things without having experienced the bad.

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