A woman laments that her boyfriend lets the dog watch them have sex.
Dear Sexes: My boyfriend always lets his dog watch us have sex. Is it just me, or is this creepy? How do I get him to kick the dog out?
She Said: Gosh, people are weird. I can only imagine how this habit came about.
Whenever I’m totally perplexed about why men do something I try to go back to what I know about my guy friends: They don’t usually read into things, and generally they don’t have complicated agendas. So I assume that he lets the dog watch because he’s thinking, “It’s just a dog.”
Before you go to any extremes to get the dog out of the bedroom, try instead to get out of your own head. Seriously, the dog’s not judging you. He doesn’t notice your stretch marks and he’s never even heard of cellulite! If you still can’t relax I guess you’re just going to have to do something I am generally against: The Ultimatum. Dog goes in the other room or I do. Just seems a bit extreme. I mean, it is just a dog.
He Said: Does your boyfriend secretly emulate Mel Gibson? Gibson, as Detective Riggs in “Lethal Weapon,” always let his dog watch him and his girlfriend get it on. Tell your boyfriend that Mel Gibson is a weirdo, and if he’s looking for a role-model in the bedroom, start with Brad Pitt, as Tyler Durden, in “Fight Club”.
Seriously though, it is a little weird, and the dog needs to give you and your man some private time. This can best be accomplished by having your man step up and be the alpha-dog. He needs to lay down some boundaries and house rules—for humans and animals alike. Maybe as a reward for respecting boundaries—AFTER sex time is over, perhaps the dog can join the two of you for a cuddle session (though that would still probably be a bit weird too). Regardless, during the deed, the dog should be in his own room, playing with his own bone (pun intended).
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Originally appeared at SheSaidHeSaid.
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