What We do Does not Define Us

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If we are one person when no-one is looking, and another when we feel we are being watched, we have a problem. A big problem.

“When a guy finds a safe place to talk without judgment, the floodgates open.”

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Great article, Aaron. I LOVE the last two sentences. As we’ve talked about, with many men it takes a gut wrenching, 2×4 club to the stomach sort of epiphany to want to talk. When my clients reach this point of pain, hunger, or fear…they finally call. When a guy finds a safe place to talk without judgment, the flood gates open. Sometimes it’s way too late. Even then it doesn’t matter. He needs to work on being better at his NEXT relationship.
Then he has to decide if he actually going to DO anything different. If nothing changes – nothing changes.
Title: When a guy finds a safe place to talk without judgment, the floodgates open.

“Rage should always be reconsidered and de-escalated as quickly as possible, and forgiveness should never be taken for granted.”

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This comment by EnterNight on the post Intent vs Impact: Why Your Intentions Don’t Really Matter

How Not to Cheat

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Marriage is simply hard work. But the good news is that attitude is everything.

Quote of the Day: The Actions of Men

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by John Locke

The Carrot or the Stick: Why Men Seek Pleasure or Pain in Every Action

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Alan Bishop wants to know: Which choice leads you down the path?

Healthy Attachments to Money

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We all need money to survive in this society. If there is a healthy relationship to money, what does that look like?

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Mastered in childhood and carried into adulthood, the dumb boy face is a pernicious mask handy for avoiding accountability, writes Craig Bloomstrand.

Men Need Time

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John Verling is a man of action, not emotion, and he would like others to understand that which he needs most.

“If the football program is producing boys like these, it should be shut down right now because it’s creating monsters.”

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Should the Steubenville football program and other programs whose students commit sexual assault be shut down?

“What if you asked Tiger Woods if it was all worth it even after being caught?”

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This is a comment by wellokaythen on the post “CNN asks, ‘Are Men Stupid?’… Actually, No.”

100 Acts of Male Goodness

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How do you know who is a good man? By his acts.

Guess What? It’s Not About You

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A fly helped Carlo Alcos realize that nothing anyone does to him is personal.

Honesty, Yeah That’s an Action Word, Too

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When it comes to honesty, Lisa Hickey would rather ignore words and focus on actions.