Big Man on Campus

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A fragile boy with learning disabilities transitions from home school to college.

The Difference Between Want and Need

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Why should a man clean his toilet rather than play video games?

The Function of Adrenalin in Boys’ Rites of Passage

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The young generation can be a threat to the status quo, or an energy source that needs direction, depending on how we meet the challenge.

“‘Trauma in youth becomes attraction in adulthood.’ You just rocked my world with how true that is.”

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Mel talks about how childhood trauma lead to unhealthy sexual experiences and self-hatred later in life. (TW for sexual abuse.)

Urinals, Graffiti, and Boys Being Seen

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Being invisible in a high price to pay for being a teenage boy.

‘Peter Pan Syndrome’ Is Not Necessarily a Bad Thing

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Does the pop psych notion of Peter Pan Syndrome give boyish traits a bad reputation?

Reimagining Mentorship

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The building blocks of society are its adult citizens. What kind of society do we want to build?

“If I act like an adult 90% of the time, but get treated like a child anyway, what’s the point?”

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This is a comment by Michael Philp on the post “Raising Teenagers For Dummies (Like Me)”.

Why I’m Quitting Drinking in 2013

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I’ve finally realized I’m no longer ‘one of the lads’ but a ‘binge drinking father figure.’

Some Dos and Don’ts for People Without Kids When Dealing with Their Breeder Friends

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You don’t have to be a “kid person” to remain our friends after we have kids, just a “friend person.”

“If someone makes fun of my son because of the color of his oven, that person doesn’t get any cookies.”

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This is a comment by wellokaythen on the post “My Sons’ Easy-Bake Oven Shame”.

Death by Confirmation

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In this Catholic rite of passage, becoming a man permanently alters a boy’s relationship to his father.

1BlueString—An Awareness Campaign from 1in6

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Are you a musician? Here are four ways that you can help us raise awareness about men who are survivors of childhood sexual abuse.

Last Place

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How do you come to love the place you call home?

Alternatives to Marriage: 12/1

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Do you have to get married?

Adulthood: We’re All Screwed Up

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We adults have no idea what the heck is going on, writes stand-up comedian Bo Guthrie.