I Could Have Slept With My Professor

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A proposition leaves a young man feeling conflicted, regretful.

After the Affair: Quieting the Movie In Your Mind

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After you’ve been betrayed, a tape starts to play in your head. On repeat. Amy Daves offers guidance on changing the channel.

Is Your Relationship Affair-Proof?

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Amy Daves is an expert at affair repair. She’d rather help you prevent betrayal from happening in the first place.

Affair Repair: Four Ingredients for Healing After Betrayal

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Amy Daves specializes in helping couples recover from betrayal. She simplifies this painful process into bite-sized pieces.

Why Do Stay At Home Dads Have More Affairs? It’s Not Why You Think

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Relationship strategist Sue Nador says that when the dishes pile up so do the resentments, and she offers some ideas for avoiding that trap.

Why You’d Rather Have Sex With Someone Else Than Work On Your Marriage

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Jayson Gaddis examines some very unexpected causes of infidelity, and gives tips on how to prevent and heal from them.

Equating Love With Possession

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The definition of love is not determined by the way we believe most people act with their lovers.

Buckle Up: BDSM, Blackmail and Game Theory

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John Edale explains how to get what you want, by limiting your own options.

My Version of Our Story

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The moment that we engage with others, we become characters in their story, says writer Alyssa Royse.

Dear John: A Guest Who Brings a Lot of Baggage

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An old secret threatens a marriage, a girlfriend won’t open up about changes in her life, and a father of three suddenly wants a motorcycle.

Born to Be Abused [Trigger warning]

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A lifetime of abuse makes one man call himself ‘disposable.’

I Might Be a Father, But I’ll Never Know for Sure

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Andy Bodle learns the harm in having an affair with a married woman.

I Had an Affair with a Married Man (and I Don’t Regret It)

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Sandra Cliff thought of their affair as “big love and big lies,” but her old lover seems to make his open marriage work—only with more orgasms.

The Best of Dear John from 2012

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Read the best answers by Dear John about sex, relationships, dating, kids, affairs, and more.

Why Do Men Cheat?

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Biology explains why men stray, but reason and affection hold the keys to happy, monogamous marriages between women and men.

Forgiving Adultery

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After cheating, a yogi learns that you have to forgive to heal.