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What Marijuana Means to Me

May 7, 2013 By Anonymous 23 Comments

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For Grace, marijuana represents the destruction of her family.

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Out of the Haze

May 6, 2013 By Brandon W. Mosley 7 Comments

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Brandon W. Mosley is called a ‘unicorn’ by his classmates—for being a non-toking college student surrounded by aggressive, athletic stoners.

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When Teen Boys Lose Hope

April 30, 2013 By Earl Hipp 9 Comments

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Hopeless and angry young males can do desperate things. How mentors can stand by in their times of crisis.

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A Threat and a Promise

April 23, 2013 By Chuck Ross 5 Comments

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Pro tip from a waiter: don’t enlist the staff in your wedding proposal. But if you do, do it right.

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What Are You Prepared to Do?

April 11, 2013 By J. A. Drew Diaz 22 Comments

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In case of a violent attack, J. A. Drew Diaz says that it’s time to embrace the corollary to the Boy Scout motto: be prepared to fight back.

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How Social Messages Can Make a Man a Bad Lover

April 6, 2013 By Brandy Engler 15 Comments

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What you believe may keep you from greater intimacy and satisfaction.

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Embracing Destruction

April 5, 2013 By Kevin Macku 7 Comments

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How do we learn to take decisive action?

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How to Become a Warrior

March 25, 2013 By Russell Perkins Leave a Comment

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The warrior is sensitive enough to discern truth, and has the courage to stand up for it.

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The F-Word for Black Men

March 18, 2013 By Billy Johnson II 7 Comments

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Introducing a new weekly column on The Good Life by popular contributor “Dr. Bill” Johnson II on black masculinity. This week, he addresses people with common values, separated by a word.

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Guess Who Created Your Little Bully?

March 16, 2013 By Kenny Bodanis 5 Comments

Lisa Dixon-Wells, bullying prevention expert, on bullying behavior: how it starts, where it leads, how to stop it.

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New Rites of Passage for Young Men

March 3, 2013 By Nick Clements 1 Comment

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How to create meaningful rites that young men want to experience.

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“When I talk about male aggression, I differentiate that from anger.”

March 2, 2013 By the Editors 2 Comments

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From Erik: For a fairly masculine man that energy is more or less his core power and the place from where he naturally lives.

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Show Me the Money

February 28, 2013 By Andy Bodle 12 Comments

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Andy Bodle believes he’s uncovered the real cause of the gender pay gap.

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Violence in Video Games: 2/16

January 31, 2013 By the Editors 1 Comment

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What can we teach our children about violence in video games?

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My Journey from the Gym to the Gym

January 14, 2013 By Bill Caudill 4 Comments

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Bill Caudill overcomes his old fears of the gym … at the gym.

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Freddy E Live Tweets Suicide

January 13, 2013 By Justin Cascio 2 Comments

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Rapper Freddy E Tweeted his plans just before he killed himself. Do acts like his glamorize death and suicide? Or was this a last minute cry for help? And why Twitter?

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Phoenix Police Seargent Ben Kartchner said, “He’s left a precious child and a wife behind, and it’s our responsibility to make sure that they’re taken care of for the rest of their life.”

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