3 Ways Being Nice Will Hurt Your Relationship

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Thomas Fiffer reveals 3 ways being nice is the worst thing you can do to your partner.

Why Are Most Violent People Male?

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Andrew Smiler considers several reasons why violent people are more likely to be male than female.

Discussing the Cycle of Male Verbal Abuse

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He used the same words. He used the same towering posture. This wasn’t about teaching me or guiding me to be a man. This was about control.

No More NFL For Me

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Gint Aras has always been a football fan. But he can no longer associate himself with that culture.

7 Life Lessons I Learned from Professional Fighting

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After 1000 punches, 1000 kicks, 500 knees and 500 elbows—every day— Thai Nguyen has an insight or two he’d like to share about fighting.

My Ex-Girlfriend is a $%&*# – Moving From Blame to Gratitude

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Bob Schwenkler on not allowing a break-up to break you apart.

Learnings from an Emotional Abuser to the World

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Alejandro Flores was an insulting and emotionally abusive partner to the person he most loved. He reflects back on the darkness of those times, and on the light ahead.

What Happens to Masculinity and Marriage When Unemployment Strikes?

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Steven Lake Explores the Effects of Unemployment on Masculinity and Marriage. A Survival Story.

I Am Proud Of My Masculinity

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Graham Phoenix has felt a need to take control over what he does in life and he has had many reasons to question this over the years. He now realizes that this is an essential aspect of his masculinity, an important part of being a man.

Dear White America

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Danez Smith is demanding that White America look and listen to the reality of racism.

Of Tears and Testosterone: Reflections on the Manliness of Grief

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Traditional American masculinity did little to help Miller Williams handle his profound grief. Here’s a glimpse into his process, and the experience that brought him to it.

It’s All in How You Respond

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“Often we are OK with impartial feedback, but the real challenge for me in my marriage was learning to be OK with—and respond positively to—feedback from my wife.”

Can Divorce Be an Act of Love? One Man’s Perspective

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Love and Divorce are as closely related as Love and Marriage, and both can and should be done well.

My Father, My Self: It’s Complicated

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My Father Changed, But My Memories Are Not So Easily Shed.

Getting Over The Friend Zone

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Stanley Fritz shares a personal story of rejection, and the three most important things he has learned from that experience.

One Letter Away From (D)anger

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Tree hugging hippie pacifist Edie Weinstein discovers that anger can be a positive emotion when used for good.