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Ending Anxiety with Solid Shields and Open Vents

June 15, 2013 by Kevin Carty Leave a Comment

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Making guyhood better means involving the screens and valves that relieve male anxiety.

Filed Under: Featured Content, Guyhood Tagged With: anxiety, boyhood, bullying, Citadel, Faludi, feminism, fight club, Fraternities, fraternity, gender roles, groups, guyhood, hazing, homophobia, Kimmel, male anxiety, manhood, manly, masculine, masculinity, misogyny, No Homo, patriarchy, pledging, rape culture, sexism

Dirty Little Secrets: Men, Trauma, and Mental Health

May 18, 2013 by Kenny D'Cruz Leave a Comment

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After his father was declared an enemy of the state in Uganda, his family fled. Now a successful consultant and men’s group leader, Kenny D’Cruz continues to heal from a life marked by persecution and mental illness.

Filed Under: Emotional Intelligence, Featured Content, Health, Psych, & Addiction, Mental Illness, The Good Life Tagged With: abandonment, absent fathers, Africa, anxiety, Asian-British men, Body Dysmorphic Disorder, Carl Jung, contamination, delayed adolescence, demanding mothers, depression, dyscalculia, enmeshment, Families, Goan, guilt, hoarding, humiliation, Idi Amin, Kenny D'Cruz, manhood, Mark Strider, men's groups, Men's Health, mental illness, mental illness in workplace, mindfulness techniques, obsessive compulsive disorder, OCD, panic, paranoia, Peter Pan Syndrome, Pia Mellody, Post-traumatic Stress Disorder, PTSD, Racism, refugee story, refugees, secrets, suicide prevention, survivor's guilt, the stateless man, Tourette's syndrome, trauma, Uganda, Ugandan refugees

Mrs. Antihero

May 14, 2013 by Chuck Ross 10 Comments

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We love to watch bad guys on TV. Why do we love to hate their wives almost as much?

Filed Under: Ethics & Values, Featured Content, Media Men, The Good Life Tagged With: adultery, AMC, angel of hearth, Anna Gunn, antihero dramas, antihero wives, antiheroes, anxiety, Barbara Ehrenreich, Boardwalk Empire, Bob Odenkirk, bonnie and clyde, Breaking Bad, bryan cranston, Carmela Soprano, conflict, couples therapy, crime dramas, dark side, Denise Du Vernay, dexter, domestic life, Don Draper, Elayne Rapping, ethics, facebook, fantasy life, Fuck Skyler White, gangsters and molls, hanna rosin, heroes, I Hate Lori Grimes, I hate Skyler White, infidelity, John Landgraf, judging, Julie Benz, Lori Grimes, Mad Men, madonna stereotype, male antiheroes, male identity, manhood, masculinity, media images of men, media portrayals of women, Melissa Rosenberg, Michael C. Hall, Michael Corleone, morality, Nora Ephron, pop philosophy, Sarah Wayne Callies, sexism on TV, sexist double standards, Showtime, Skyler White, sleepless in seattle, social media, The End of Men, The Godfather, The Sopranos, Tony Soprano, TV on internet, TV wives, values, Vince Gilligan, walking dead, why people hate Skyler White, woman as angel of household, woman as moral center

What My Sister Did: Surviving Incest

May 12, 2013 by Nathan C. Daniels 43 Comments

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What she did was wrong. It took Nathan C. Daniels years to learn this, and overcome the shame of being her victim.

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Filed Under: On Rape and Sexual Violence Tagged With: adult survivors of incest, advice, anxiety, brother-sister relationships, brothers and sisters, child sexual abuse, dissociation, Families, Incest, male survivors, molestation, Nathan C. Daniels, PTSD, rape, seeking help, sexual abuse of boys, sexual assault, sibling incest, sibling relationships, sister on brother incest, suicidal thoughts, survivor's guilt, survivor's stories, symptoms of sexual abuse in boys, symptoms of trauma

When a Man’s Responsibility Has Gone, What Is There Left for Him?

March 28, 2013 by Graham Phoenix 13 Comments

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Men keep going out of a sense of duty. What happens when that’s no longer enough?

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Mental Toughness Has Nothing to Do with Being a Hardass

March 27, 2013 by Wendy Lynne 8 Comments

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Learn the difference between mastery and suppression of your feelings.

Filed Under: Emotional Intelligence, Health, Psych, & Addiction, Male Toughness, The Good Life Tagged With: anger, Anger Management, anxiety, body mind connection, denial, difficult emotions, doubts, emotional resilience, grief, male toughness, man code, Man up, manhood, masculinity, men's emotions, men's feelings, mental toughness, negative emotions, problem solving emotions, psychology, repressed, self-knowledge, shame, stoicism, The Good Life

How Not to Cheat

March 23, 2013 by Bill Cloke 7 Comments

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Marriage is simply hard work. But the good news is that attitude is everything.

Filed Under: Featured Content, Infidelity, The Good Life Tagged With: actions, anxiety, bachelorhood, betrayal, bride and groom, character, cheating spouse, communication relationships, destiny, Divorce, ethics, Families, Four Agreements, guilt, honesty, how to earn respect, infidelity, integrity, lying, marriage, marriage advice infidelity, marriage counselor, married, Married life, native-american history, negative emotions, relationship therapist, relationships, respect, Sex and Relationships, shame, single life, Toltec, values, wedding, wedding ceremony, workplace romance

3 Second Rule Your Life

March 5, 2013 by David Friedlander 1 Comment

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Could Pick Up Artistry help you make better decisions?

Filed Under: Advice & Confessions Tagged With: anxiety, confidence, dating, decision making, Neil Strauss, over thinking, pick up artistry, PUA, risk assessment, second thoughts, taking action, The Game

Ten Things to Expect When First Dating a Fella

February 15, 2013 by Josh Bowman 16 Comments

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Josh Bowman provides some insight into the strange and complicated minds of guys during the first few dates.

Filed Under: Ten Things I've Learned Tagged With: anxiety, First Dates, holding the door open, idatedthatdouche, men, relationship, sex, the rules, women

Career Anxiety: Self-Fulfilling Prophecy?

February 11, 2013 by Dave Kaiser Leave a Comment

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Anne Fisher talks with two experts, Deborah Brown-Volkman and GMP’s own David Kaiser, about how to stay calm and effective and do your best, even when the company or the economy is on a roller coaster.

Filed Under: Business Ethics, Good Feed Blog Tagged With: anxiety, career, CNN, fear, fired, Fortune, job, unemployment

How to Survive a Dating Emergency

February 10, 2013 by Harris O'Malley 5 Comments

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What could go wrong on a first date? Just about everything. Don’t worry, Dr. Nerdlove’s got you covered.

Filed Under: Best of Sex & Relationships, Featured Content, Sex & Relationships Tagged With: anxiety, awkward, bad breath, couple, dating, dating advice, Dr NerdLove, emergency, first date anxiety, first date survival kit, first kiss, Harris O'Malley, what do you need first date

The Power of Sleep

February 6, 2013 by Carl Pettit 2 Comments

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Carl Pettit feels sorry for the American insomniac, from sleepless in Seattle to the city that never sleeps.

Filed Under: Health, Psych, & Addiction, Root Down, The Good Life Tagged With: ambien, anxiety, brain, causes of insomnia, dreaming, health, insomnia, modern life, pharmaceuticals, prescription drugs, sleep, sleep disorder, sleeplessness, stress relief

Welcoming the New Generation of Highly Sensitive Men

January 31, 2013 by Rick Belden 23 Comments

Rick Belden gives readers a name for what they have always known about themselves.

Filed Under: Health, Psych, & Addiction, Quarter-Life Crisis, Smashing Male Stereotypes, The Good Life Tagged With: #HSP, anxiety, Chrisi Brand, highly sensitive men, highly sensitive people, highly sensitive person, identity, Introversion, introverts, masculinity, Rick Belden, self image, sensitivity, social media, The Good Men Project, Twitter, xoJane.com

When Did You Figure Out What Marriage Isn’t?

January 17, 2013 by Gint Aras 1 Comment

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An informal survey among married (and divorced, and separated, and remarried) men.

Filed Under: Featured Content, Marriage Tagged With: a contest, anxiety, Ask Men, Courtship, death, Divorce, family, guys respond, happiness, heartbreak, intimacy, kids, marriage isn't a contest, maturity, safety, security, sensibility, separation, Sex and Relationships, what marriage isn't

When Anxiety Attacks

January 16, 2013 by Registered Runaway Leave a Comment

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The stress and fear seemed insurmountable, until the Registered Runaway was reminded of Mark Twain’s dictum: against the assault of laughter nothing can stand.

Filed Under: Advice & Confessions Tagged With: anxiety, anxiety attack, Comedy, homosexuality, humor, life script, parents, PFLAG, Registered Runaway, Stress, stress relief, Therapy

Shame Is Why We Fight

January 6, 2013 by Vironika Tugaleva 29 Comments

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When a man can’t soothe his woman’s anxieties, he has failed to protect her. And in our culture of masculinity, failed men are expendable.

Filed Under: Featured Content, Men and Masculinity, Sex & Relationships, The Good Life Tagged With: abuse, aggression, anger, Anger Management, anxiety, authenticity, battering, biology, Brene Brown, communication, concern, conflict, cult of femininity, cult of masculinity, cycle of abuse, defensiveness, dignity, disposability of men, domestic abuse, domestic violence, domination, embarrassment, emotional intelligence, emotions, empathy, entitlement, evolutionary psychology, fear, female anxiety, Fighting, gender roles, hate crimes, heterosexual relationships, inadequacy, instinct, integrity, intimacy, isolation, judgment, judgmental, male ego, male entitlement, masculinity, mass shootings, misplaced blame, panic, prejudice, protectors, relationships, secrecy, secrets, security, sex, shame, shame research, silence, socialization, soothing, Steven Stosny, submission, support, suppressing anger, suppressing fear, triggers, validation, values, venting, vigilance, violence, vulnerability

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