At first, John Edale worried about sharing this private aspect of his life in a blog, but has found that coming out as submissive has unexpected benefits.
21 Step Guide to the Art of Masculine Domination
January 29, 2013 By 14 Comments
Skillful dominance requires confidence and sensitivity. Are you bringing it, every step of the way?
Just Doing My Job
January 9, 2013 By 12 Comments
Justin Cascio’s life has been changed by the writers who reveal their own lives—and the taboos of our society.
How BDSM Helped a Rape Survivor Recover
November 26, 2012 By 17 Comments
Author Jane Devin overcame fear to embrace an unlikely ally
Is BDSM Just a Phase?
November 23, 2012 By 32 Comments
A dominant man’s sexuality matures and evolves with experience.
The Utility of Rape Porn
November 7, 2012 By 73 Comments
Under what circumstances is it acceptable to simulate non-consensual or violent sex?
Why Men Don’t Always Want Sex
November 6, 2012 By 23 Comments
Believe it or not, men are not always in the mood. Sex educator Ken Melvoin-Berg helps turn this unfortunate situation into an opportunity for exploration and fun.
Would the Buddha Look at Porn?
November 6, 2012 By 33 Comments
On the question of porn, Buddhist American Keith Andresen is torn between culture and faith.
On Publishing ‘Sex and Snuff: What Dying Twice Taught Me About Eroticized Death’
October 22, 2012 By 13 Comments
Senior Editor Joanna Schroeder explains why she believes the voices of those who star in porn are crucial to the conversation about what is and is not acceptable in pornography.
You’re Never Not What You Are
September 12, 2012 By 13 Comments
Young self-identified masters and dominants often have to fight for their identities BDSM spaces. Olivia Davis looks at why that’s wrong. In some ways, BDSM is a subculture of title and tradition. The rigid backbone of many kink organizations is Leather—regimented, highly organized Leather. Dating back to WWII vets desperately seeking military structure in their [...]
I Don’t Want to Be Her S&Master
August 14, 2012 By 15 Comments
A guy wonders how to handle his girlfriend who wants to have a master/slave relationship. Josie and Eli call in Noah Brand for a third opinion from inside the world of kink.
Why “Unbirthing” Is Good For Everybody
August 6, 2012 By 3 Comments
Is it too late in the game to say “the internet changes things?” I know that’s very late-nineties-trend-piece of me, but it’s still going on and we’re still discovering what it means. Our dull, meaty monkey brains just move so much slower than the things we make with them. So, for now, I’m going to [...]
Human First, Dom Second
July 29, 2012 By 17 Comments
What does it mean that the popular image of the male dominant is a paragon of sadistic power?
Fifty Shades of Grey is Unintelligible as a Novel
July 26, 2012 By 11 Comments
Warning: This is not a post about gender, sex, or towering rage. It’s basically a piece of literary criticism. Also, some spoilers follow. So, as Charles creepily informed you, we’ve been reading Fifty Shades of Grey. Presently, we’re actually a bit of the way into sequel Fifty Shades Darker. Once we finish the trilogy, we’re going to [...]
Your Humble Editors are Reading Fifty Shades of Grey.
July 18, 2012 By Leave a Comment
“It’s a woman’s job to make her man feel safe — a safe place that doesn’t expect him to do brave things just because he’s a man.”
This is a comment by Kat on the post “A Husband’s Job Is To Create Emotional Safety”.