Submissive Men Circa 1988: An Excerpt From the Memoirs of Janet Hardy

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Tweet Kink pioneer Janet Hardy recalls some of the men she met when she first started exploring BDSM. The following is an excerpt from Janet Hardy’s upcoming memoir, currently titled “Impervious: Chronicles of a Retired Deviant”. In this excerpt, she recalls the early days of finding dates through coded personal ads. The personal ads suddenly […]

The Strength of Submission

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At first, John Edale worried about sharing this private aspect of his life in a blog, but has found that coming out as submissive has unexpected benefits.

21 Step Guide to the Art of Masculine Domination

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Skillful dominance requires confidence and sensitivity. Are you bringing it, every step of the way?

Just Doing My Job

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Justin Cascio’s life has been changed by the writers who reveal their own lives—and the taboos of our society.

How BDSM Helped a Rape Survivor Recover

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Author Jane Devin overcame fear to embrace an unlikely ally

Is BDSM Just a Phase?

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A dominant man’s sexuality matures and evolves with experience.

Why Men Don’t Always Want Sex

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Believe it or not, men are not always in the mood. Sex educator Ken Melvoin-Berg helps turn this unfortunate situation into an opportunity for exploration and fun.

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One man’s pleasureland is another man’s nightmare.

You’re Never Not What You Are

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Tweet Young self-identified masters and dominants often have to fight for their identities BDSM spaces. Olivia Davis looks at why that’s wrong. In some ways, BDSM is a subculture of title and tradition. The rigid backbone of many kink organizations is Leather—regimented, highly organized Leather. Dating back to WWII vets desperately seeking military structure in […]

I Don’t Want to Be Her S&Master

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A guy wonders how to handle his girlfriend who wants to have a master/slave relationship. Josie and Eli call in Noah Brand for a third opinion from inside the world of kink.

Why “Unbirthing” Is Good For Everybody

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TweetIs it too late in the game to say “the internet changes things?” I know that’s very late-nineties-trend-piece of me, but it’s still going on and we’re still discovering what it means. Our dull, meaty monkey brains just move so much slower than the things we make with them. So, for now, I’m going to […]

Human First, Dom Second

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What does it mean that the popular image of the male dominant is a paragon of sadistic power?

Fifty Shades of Grey is Unintelligible as a Novel

TweetWarning: This is not a post about gender, sex, or towering rage. It’s basically a piece of literary criticism. Also, some spoilers follow. So, as Charles creepily informed you, we’ve been reading Fifty Shades of Grey. Presently, we’re actually a bit of the way into sequel Fifty Shades Darker. Once we finish the trilogy, we’re going to […]

Your Humble Editors are Reading Fifty Shades of Grey.

TweetBecause of course we are. Did you think we’d let you down? Never, baby. We’re gonna stick with you through the end. And we’re gonna protect you, and give you expensive gifts and get all up in your business and maybe cross a few lines but only because we’ve never wanted someone as much as […]

Some Thoughts and Questions About BDSM PR

TweetIn December while visiting his family for the holidays, Charles and I stopped by the Leather Archives and Museum in Chicago. The LA&M is a small, but scrupulously kept museum nestled in with a bunch of apartment complexes. The museum is identifiable by its sign bearing a gigantic boot, as well the resemblance of the […]

The Story of Us

TweetOn this day last year, Charles and I decided that we were going to give dating a try. Our relationship had, in the past couple of weeks between then and when we first met at a munch exploded hilariously and somewhat consumingly from people who took a shine to each other at a munch[1], to […]