The Man Who Carried Snakes

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The search for manhood is like climbing a cliff to jump into a lake, going up is easy, but it’s a long way down.

Thanksgiving, 1975


1975. That was the year I made a decision and learned a secret that would change my life.

Guyland: The Time Between Boyhood and Manhood


Raoul Wieland didn’t expect to be so moved or challenged by Michael Kimmel’s book about the process of how boys become men in our society.

Unexpected Lessons From Jeff, Who Lives at Home


Christian Clifton finds some great lessons in Jeff, Who Lives at Home. All it took was being willing to watch it more than once.

Perception, Environment, Tradition – 10 Questions About Gender

by William, 38, North Alabama

JJ Vincent asked a 38-year-old about gender, identity, self-expression, and what defines a man.

What I Learned from Watching Men (Before I Became One)

What kind of man do you choose to be?

In becoming a man, Dillan DiGiovanni realized this: “I am in charge of the guy I am.”

Authentic Man Experiment – Authentically Awkward

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Damien Bohler’s search for authentic love is thwarted when he screws up royally with a girl he really likes.

My Father’s Glasses

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With his father’s passing, Geoff Kronik ponders how he felt like less of a son by half and somehow also more like a man.

The Bad Man Project


“He wondered if the reason he felt momentarily complete during coital orgasm was that he had convinced himself that he was once again inside the womb.”

I’m For Commitment, Just Not Marriage

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For this week’s Man Up Monday, Carlos Andrés Gómez explains how the love of his life opened him up to a new model of life-long commitment.