Secondary Survivors

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For those that love us and are aware of our past: the other survivors of abuse.

“I don’t expect perfection from the boys. I want them to be okay with not being perfect.”

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This is a comment by on the post “Why Perfection Is the Lowest Standard You Can Set for Yourself”.

“I used to be convinced that ‘real men’ should only want sex and hate cuddling, kissing, and talking about love.”

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Men, there are a lot of things that society tells you that you should want. Do you want those things? Or do you want something more, something different?

3 Things We Can Learn From U7 Basketball

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Parents and coaches have invaluable opportunities to teach and apply real-life lessons within the fun of organized sports. Unfortunately, many of us miss out on the opportunity.

“If I act like an adult 90% of the time, but get treated like a child anyway, what’s the point?”

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This is a comment by Michael Philp on the post “Raising Teenagers For Dummies (Like Me)”.

Men and Goodness

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Tom Matlack believes that good isn’t something we are, it’s something we do.

“The only ‘pride’ I take in my violent behavior is my obsessive focus on thwarting bullies.”

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This is a comment by Dan on the post “Fight or Flight”.

Face the Rage

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How do you powerfully deal with people when they’re acting nuts?

Stay and Play: A Guide to Etiquette

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You can’t just dump your kids off and start drinking. What do you think this is, the Chuck E. Cheese?

“What does appearance have to do with being a creep? Quit being predatory. That’s it.”

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These are comments by Kaleb Blake and Julie Gillis on the post “Creepy Behavior and the Difference Between ‘Attractive’ and ‘Attracted’”.

Dear John: Relationships 101

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This week Dear John addresses a student/teacher relationship, an eavesdropping boss, and an old flame.

“We all ‘objectify’ people to some degree.”

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This is a comment by Quadruple A on the post “Too Much Ado About Women’s Asses – Equity Doesn’t Enter Into the Picture”.

“Men can never be considered ‘manly’ enough. It’s like a carrot dangling in front of our noses.”

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This is a comment by BP and Keevo on the post “Poll: Why is Our Society Obsessed with Modern Men and Manliness?”

“‘Creep’ is a stronger way of saying ‘I don’t like that guy’ without saying why.”

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These are comments by Shoutybloke and mayfly on the post “Thoughts on ‘Creep’”.

“Discipline should never be given out in uncontrolled anger.”

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This is a comment by Eric M on the post “Why Time Outs Don’t Work”.

“It probably is normal behaviour for those who have been through abuse.”

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This is a comment by Archy on the post “Why Women Aren’t Crazy”.