commitment — The Good Men Project

“It is all too easy to make a thoughtless commitment to the wrong person, then be miserable in ways that only ending the relationship can fix.”

May 10, 2013 By the Editors Leave a Comment

This comment was by Kat on the post: Save Your Marriage: 6 Unconventional Steps.

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A Person Is Not a Closet

May 5, 2013 By Chuck Ross 114 Comments

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Did Jason Collins use his former fiancee, Carolyn Moos?

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Walking on Knives in Nova Scotia

April 14, 2013 By Rob Azevedo Leave a Comment

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Rob Azevedo puts his love to the test soon after their married lives begin.

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How to Love Fearlessly

March 27, 2013 By Rebecca Butler 12 Comments

marriage, love, fighting, divorce, separation, relationships, love, families, fear of abandonment, insecurity, commitment

Do you feel secure in your relationship?

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Why Do People Expect Us to Remarry?

March 8, 2013 By D. A. Wolf 12 Comments

A divorced woman joins her partner to attend a party of surprisingly welcoming married couples. The experience gets her thinking about social expectations.

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5 Reasons to Wait 30 Days for Sex

March 4, 2013 By Wendy Walsh, PhD 91 Comments

We concern ourselves with getting dating right, but why are so many of us failing to find intimate life partners?

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Hurt People Hurt People: Infidelity and Self-Deception

February 6, 2013 By Rod Arters 4 Comments

‘Hurt people hurt people’ explains, but does not pardon, the damage done by those who cheat on their partners.

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5 Reasons Divorce Rate Has Fallen in US and UK

January 21, 2013 By the Editors 18 Comments

Does the recent trend signal a long-term change or is it merely a hiccup ?

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How to Be a Cheater

January 5, 2013 By Lindsay Timmington 31 Comments

When I caught him red handed, I didn’t leave. Instead, I cheated, too.

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A Chronic Cheater

January 1, 2013 By Billy Johnson II 6 Comments

An unfaithful man ends up alone, taking a fearless personal inventory, and vows to change.

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Unmarried and Unequal

December 17, 2012 By Cindy Butler 2 Comments

Why The Alternatives to Marriage Project fights for unmarried equality.

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Snip Decision: Why I Had a Vasectomy

November 29, 2012 By Jim Gray 1 Comment

Jim Gray on the nitty-gritty details of his vasectomy, his experience of fatherhood, and how they go together.

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Boys in the Friend Zone

November 23, 2012 By Ben Keeler 44 Comments

How can we mentor boys in dating and relationship skills?

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My Husband Live-Chats with Porn Girls

November 9, 2012 By She Said He Said 47 Comments

Watching porn is one thing. Live -chatting with sex workers is another.

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When Trust Is Lost Can You Find It Again?

October 19, 2012 By Bill Cloke Leave a Comment

Some damage cannot be undone. Bill Cloke on what it takes to regain intimacy.

Filed Under: Advice & Confessions, Featured Content Tagged With: adultery, alcoholism, Anger Management, arrogance, cheating, commitment, confidence, Divorce, drug abuse, entitlement, full disclosure, honesty, intimacy, loneliness, marital problems, marriage, maturity, narcissism, regaining trust, relationships, respect, security, self-esteem, sex addiction, sexual infidelity, Suspicion, trust, values

My Body Is a Temple

October 1, 2012 By Kyle Carpenter Leave a Comment

Kyle Carpenter’s body remains unaltered until he can embrace the permanence of the experience.

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