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How One Person Can Improve a Relationship

February 22, 2013 By Dr. Carol B. Low 9 Comments

Communication skills anyone can learn to put the love back into their relationship.

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Shame Is Why We Fight

January 6, 2013 By Vironika Tugaleva 29 Comments

When a man can’t soothe his woman’s anxieties, he has failed to protect her. And in our culture of masculinity, failed men are expendable.

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“We expect to have sex like the pros, but not dunk a basketball like the pros and we’re fine with that.”

September 2, 2012 By the Editors 3 Comments

This is a comment by Jon D on the post “Real Life 40 Year-Old Virgin”.

Filed Under: Comment of the Day Tagged With: basketball, body, body image, concern, genitalia, genitals, girls, guys, insecurity, intimacy, ladies, men, penis, penis size, performance, physical appearance, porn, pornography, self image, sex, sexuality, size, sports, women

“I get frustrated with the attempts to push men to be ‘more open’ about their feelings.”

August 19, 2012 By the Editors 1 Comment

This is a comment by Alastair on the Comment of the Day: “Since I wasn’t crying, I felt like my emotions were minimized because I’m a man.”

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A Hug for a Haircut

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