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Building More Intimacy: Handling Conflict Like a Man

June 3, 2013 by Steve Horsmon 9 Comments

Steve Horsmon explains how to be a prize-winning communicator in a relationship.

Filed Under: Marriage Tagged With: anger, attractiveness, conflict, emotion, emotions, failure, Good Guys 2 Great men, Harvard Medical School, how to listen, improving intimacy, livescience, masculinity, maturity, opinions, prizing men, relationships, respecting feelings, shiri cohen, Steve Horsmon

Mrs. Antihero

May 14, 2013 by Chuck Ross 10 Comments

Skyler White, I hate Skyler White, why people hate Skyler White

We love to watch bad guys on TV. Why do we love to hate their wives almost as much?

Filed Under: Ethics & Values, Featured Content, Media Men, The Good Life Tagged With: adultery, AMC, angel of hearth, Anna Gunn, antihero dramas, antihero wives, antiheroes, anxiety, Barbara Ehrenreich, Boardwalk Empire, Bob Odenkirk, bonnie and clyde, Breaking Bad, bryan cranston, Carmela Soprano, conflict, couples therapy, crime dramas, dark side, Denise Du Vernay, dexter, domestic life, Don Draper, Elayne Rapping, ethics, facebook, fantasy life, Fuck Skyler White, gangsters and molls, hanna rosin, heroes, I Hate Lori Grimes, I hate Skyler White, infidelity, John Landgraf, judging, Julie Benz, Lori Grimes, Mad Men, madonna stereotype, male antiheroes, male identity, manhood, masculinity, media images of men, media portrayals of women, Melissa Rosenberg, Michael C. Hall, Michael Corleone, morality, Nora Ephron, pop philosophy, Sarah Wayne Callies, sexism on TV, sexist double standards, Showtime, Skyler White, sleepless in seattle, social media, The End of Men, The Godfather, The Sopranos, Tony Soprano, TV on internet, TV wives, values, Vince Gilligan, walking dead, why people hate Skyler White, woman as angel of household, woman as moral center

“It is all too easy to make a thoughtless commitment to the wrong person, then be miserable in ways that only ending the relationship can fix.”

May 10, 2013 by the Editors Leave a Comment

This comment was by Kat on the post: Save Your Marriage: 6 Unconventional Steps.

Filed Under: Comment of the Day Tagged With: advice, commitment, conflict, easy, goals, happiness, life, lifestyles, marriage, marry, men, relationship, right person, Sex and Relationships, sex drive, values, vital, wedding, women

Keep That Wanker Away from Me

May 2, 2013 by Andy Bodle 14 Comments

hooking up, the game, conflict, rage, shame, rejection, women, attracting women

Do women prefer louts? Andy Bodle’s experiment in behaving poorly makes for bad science, but a good story.

Filed Under: Dating, Featured Content, The Good Life, Womanology Tagged With: attracting women, Beer, beer goggles, card games, college life, conflict, dating, drinking, fear of rejection, hooking up, rage, rejection, rugby players, sex, sexual attraction, shame, The Game, women, women prefer assholes

What a Piece of Work is a Man?

April 10, 2013 by Ged Naughton 2 Comments

Ged Naughton searches for tre masculinity in the 21st century, through the story of war and a grassroots soccer team in Liberia

Filed Under: Men's Work Tagged With: Africa, conflict, ex-child soldiers, football, Ged Nauthgton, gender, health, Liberia, masculinity, men, sport, Stereotypes, tradition, War, West Aftrica

Embracing Destruction

April 5, 2013 by Kevin Macku 7 Comments

using force, aggression, anger management, boys aggression, impulse control, ahimsa, violence, bystanders, Steubenville, sexual violence, fighting, boys fighting, confidence, taking action, men of action, masculinity, manhood, conflict, The Good Life, emotional intelligence

How do we learn to take decisive action?

Filed Under: Conflict, Emotional Intelligence, Featured Content, The Good Life Tagged With: aggression, ahimsa, Anger Management, Boys, boys aggression, boys fighting, bullying, bystanders, confidence, conflict, Dalai Lama, dating violence, defense, destruction, domestic violence, emotional intelligence, fight club, Fighting, Gun Violence, impulse control, manhood, masculinity, men of action, negative emotions, non-violence, passive behavior, passivity, sexual violence, Steubenville, taking action, The Good Life, trusting our instincts, using force, victims, violence, white knight, White Knight Syndrome

Demean In: Are Women Sabotaging Me From Leaning In?

March 18, 2013 by Susie Meister 6 Comments

Men have never questioned MTV star Susie Meister’s career goals, but plenty of other women have.

Filed Under: Featured Content, moustacheclubofamerica Tagged With: being a mom, can you have it all?, conflict, Do you love being a mommy?, fatherhood, gender roles, how DO you do it?, Leaning In, masculine traits, motherhood, mtv, Problems with women, road rules, Sheryl Sandberg, susie meister, working dads, Working Moms, workplace ethics and values

“We only got married after being together and long-distance relationship for 10 years.”

January 9, 2013 by the Editors Leave a Comment

This is a comment by Leia on the post “What Marriage Isn’t”.

Filed Under: Comment of the Day Tagged With: adults, anger, blowing off steam, conflict, friends, grad school, honesty, Husband, long distance, Long-distance Relationship, marriage, openly, relationship, speak freely, talking, Training, wedding, wife

Shame Is Why We Fight

January 6, 2013 by Vironika Tugaleva 29 Comments

When a man can’t soothe his woman’s anxieties, he has failed to protect her. And in our culture of masculinity, failed men are expendable.

Filed Under: Featured Content, Men and Masculinity, Sex & Relationships, The Good Life Tagged With: abuse, aggression, anger, Anger Management, anxiety, authenticity, battering, biology, Brene Brown, communication, concern, conflict, cult of femininity, cult of masculinity, cycle of abuse, defensiveness, dignity, disposability of men, domestic abuse, domestic violence, domination, embarrassment, emotional intelligence, emotions, empathy, entitlement, evolutionary psychology, fear, female anxiety, Fighting, gender roles, hate crimes, heterosexual relationships, inadequacy, instinct, integrity, intimacy, isolation, judgment, judgmental, male ego, male entitlement, masculinity, mass shootings, misplaced blame, panic, prejudice, protectors, relationships, secrecy, secrets, security, sex, shame, shame research, silence, socialization, soothing, Steven Stosny, submission, support, suppressing anger, suppressing fear, triggers, validation, values, venting, vigilance, violence, vulnerability

New Fiction: Business as Usual

December 22, 2012 by Bo Guthrie 3 Comments

In this short story by Bo Guthrie, a persistent security system salesman struggles to win over a potential customer who is going through a difficult divorce.

Filed Under: moustacheclubofamerica Tagged With: Bo Guthrie, conflict, depression, Divorce, door to door sales, fathers and divorce, fiction, home security systems, Moustache Club, Moustache Club of America, sales, stories about divorce, Stress

Toy Soldiers, Real Guns

December 18, 2012 by Robert Peake 6 Comments

Poet Robert Peake asks us to look at war, nihilism and love to start the healing.

Filed Under: Ethics & Values, Featured Content Tagged With: conflict, empathy, evil, guns, healing, heroism, Jiddu Krishnamurti, journalism, Newtown, Norway Shooting, Sandy Hook, Sex and Relationships, Vietnam, violence, War, weapons

Shame and Violence: The Connecticut School Shooting and Hate

December 16, 2012 by Vironika Tugaleva 11 Comments

Tragedy comes from repressed shame, not from being too permissive with people.

Filed Under: Conflict, Emotional Intelligence, Featured Content, The Good Life Tagged With: anger, awkwardness, Bowling for Columbine, causes of violence, Chris Poulson, Compassion, condemnation of violence, conflict, Connecticut school shooting, Connecticut shooting, cycle of shame and violence, dignity, emotional intelligence, empathy, eye for an eye, good and evil, Helen Lewis, history, hypermasculine violence, James Gilligan, Marilyn Manson, masculinity, Massachusetts, Michael Moore, monsters, Nazi Germany, Nietzsche, perpetrators of violence, preventing violence, psychology, rejection, repressed shame, safety, Sandy Hook Massacre, sandy hook school shooting, security, Sex and Relationships, shame, shootings, Suffering, Thomas Scheff, victims of violence, violence, violent criminals, War, Winston Churchill

No, Really, What Are You Fighting For?

December 10, 2012 by Allan Mott 15 Comments

Allan Mott asks this question: How would you feel and what would you do if tomorrow the world suddenly became the place you’ve always wanted to live in?

Filed Under: Conflict, Featured Content Tagged With: Allan Mott, Blink, conflict, feminism, Internet Explorer, Life of Brian, Malcolm Gladwell, male privilege, Monty Python, silencing, social justice, social movements, White Privilege, Windows

Thankfully, My Wife had the Courage to Leave Me

November 13, 2012 by Anonymous 9 Comments

A man considers the social pressures that led to a bad marriage and, ultimately, divorce.

Filed Under: Marriage Tagged With: conflict, conflict in marriage, conflict in relationships, conflict resolution, Divorce, family, family pressure, in-laws, marriage, marriage solves problems, relationships, walking away, wedding

A Man Ought to Know How to Handle Something Like This

November 7, 2012 by Rick Belden 11 Comments

Bullying doesn’t always stop when childhood ends.

Filed Under: Power and Powerlessness, The Good Life Tagged With: abuse, adult survivors of child abuse, being bullied, bullies, child abuse survivors, conflict, conflict resolution, control, emotional intelligence, Families, fear, Fighting, interpersonal conflict, intimidation, male survivors, manipulation, Not Trauma Alone, powerlessness, rage, sabotage, shame, Steven N. Gold, Suffering, survivors of abuse, Torture, trauma

“The only ‘pride’ I take in my violent behavior is my obsessive focus on thwarting bullies.”

October 15, 2012 by the Editors 3 Comments

This is a comment by Dan on the post “Fight or Flight”.

Filed Under: Comment of the Day Tagged With: aggressive, behavior, bullies, bullying, children, Comment of the Day, conflict, fatherhood, Fighting, fist fights, guys, kids, men, non-violence, others, parenting, parents, violence, violent, violent behavior

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