“Sexual abuse of men happens much more often than anyone seems ready to admit.”

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These are comments by Christopher Anderson, Scott Mauer, and trey1963 on the post “I Am a Survivor, and I Can Finally Talk About It”.

The Consent Challenge

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Shireen Noble offers a personal challenge: a way to actively engage with consent culture in your own life.

A Letter To My Son About Consent

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Finn Wightman writes to her son about consent because, as she says, “I love you too much to leave these things unsaid.”

“Letting kids know that adults are willing to talk about the difficult topics—including sex—builds a net of security.”

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Did your parents teach you about your body and consent? Or did they skirt around the topic? Paris, Jenny, and Robert talk about why the healthy sex talk is important.

Changing the Culture: What Should You Do With a Passed-Out Woman? (Video)

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A pillow? Novel idea!

Rape Culture and Predator Theory

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Heather N examines the ways in which rape culture is at work on rapists, as well as society as a whole and examines whether Predator Theory would cover the Steubenville rapists.

“We already have ‘Friends don’t let friends drive drunk.’ Why not extend that to sex?”

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How does fatal drunk driving compare socially to the things that happened in Steubenville? If campaigns against drunk driving don’t work, how do you design a consensual sex campaign? What effective messages have you seen that could apply?

Only ‘Yes’ Means Yes: Sometimes What You Think is Consensual Sex is Actually Rape

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Shannon Ridgway and Sandra Kim offer a clear guide to understanding and obtaining consent from your partner.

“The fact that the commercial seems so innocent by casting an underdog is what potentially makes it so very dangerous.”

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This comment was from Katy on the post Unwanted Sexual Advances ≠ Bravery

Partying Doesn’t Have to Mean Risking Rape

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Can we create a safer party culture for all?

“I was 22. First time ever black-out drunk, first time having sex. No consent, no condom, no remembrance of it happening, better yet enjoying it.”

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But it’s the stories that get told that help give a collective understanding of a word so powerful that some people are afraid to say it out loud.

Should I Let My Wife Hook Up With Another Guy?

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A man asks Eli and Josie for advice about his wife’s unexpected fantasy.

Attn: Sleeping Means No

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A response by Amelia Harnish to a controversial post about rape.

Dear John: Cheapskate Dates

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Dear John advises on cheap dates, taped sex without consent, and a friend torn between religion and honesty.

DOMA-sticity or Has Antonin Scalia Gone Completely Barking Mad?

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Tom Gualtieri insists that DOMA and Prop 8 are bias laws without basis in the U.S. Constitution.

Rape Culture: What It Is and How It Works

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Rape culture is the trivialization of rape, and it permeates our society to an alarming extent.