Sex and Control – How I Experienced My Dark Energy

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Graham Phoenix gets goosebumps just thinking about sex. It’s so important to get it right, because so much flows from the balance between sex and control.

True Equality

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Vaughan Granier thinks the marriages that are happiest for both spouses give some serious thought to equality and control.

The Lesson of the Wall: Why My Anger Looked Different to Me from The Inside Than It Did on the Outside

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Graham Phoenix often felt the urge to exert control, the need to get people to listen to him. What happened to him when he resorted to violence to be in charge?

Letting Go Of Control Can Be The Healthiest Thing

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This short film teaches us that nature knows best and that the wild and powerful spirit of the wolf has the power to heal as well as to kill.

How I Learned to Stop Fearing Anger and Love My Wife

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Jeff Billig looks at anger from a variety of ways and comes to the conclusion, “it’s not so bad.”

Deciding What To Do With Your Marriage?

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Why Do We Believe the Solution to an Unhappy Marriageis to Fix or Replace our Spouse?

Being Cool and in Control (Or, as a Man, Pretending to Be)

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Travis Schermer realizes that sometimes acting cool can be a way to assert control—or a way to hide how out of control you feel

Battle of the Wills: Stubborn Son, Stubborn Me

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Elisabeth Corey had never met something she couldn’t control…before she met her son. Here’s how she learned to let go.

How Men Can Manage Their Fearful and Negative Thoughts

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Stan Popovich gives a run down of ways to deal with obsessive thoughts

On Pipes, Porcelain and The Boogie Man

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How Trevor Ellestad learned to deal with his demons.

The 4 C’s of Daddyhood

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Robert Nickell, dad to 7 children, shares some of what he has learned along the way.

Why Perfection Is the Lowest Standard You Can Set for Yourself

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Setting yourself up to fail is the least you can do.

David Bazan Show


An rock and roll concert full of hipsters left me feeling oddly content.

Understanding Self-Harm

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Andrew Lawes explains how ‘self-harm isn’t about dying. Self-harm is about living.’

Woman Divorces Husband for Withholding Sex


Woman ends her marriage of seventeen years when she finds it lacks passion.

Navigating Male Midlife


Recognize the signs of male menopause and understand the reasons behind the changes.