When the Why is Important the Work is Less Difficult

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At 42 she decided life was too short to settle for misery. Five years and three questions later she’s too fired up to ever settle again.

Dear Depression Sufferers: This Tweak in Thinking Could Set You Free

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Have you accepted that depression will always be a part of you?

3 Things I Wish Someone Said to Me After Trauma

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Sarafina Bianco has advanced degrees in DV and PTSD. Here’s her crash course on what people should and shouldn’t say to survivors of trauma.

Why Do I Attract Unavailable Men?

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How to empower your love after the storm of passion wanes.

It’s Kind of a Funny Story and Learning to Live Better

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The movie It’s Kind of a Funny Story has a message that Christian Clifton needed to hear.

Home HIV Test? Here’s Why You Should Say No

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There’s now a home test for finding out your HIV-status and Shadley Grei hopes you never use it.

“Find concrete reasons to feel worthwhile again.”

Hang in there

This comment by Dave D’aranjo on the post Why Men Commit Suicide: The Three Warning Signs Most People Miss

“When a guy finds a safe place to talk without judgment, the floodgates open.”

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Great article, Aaron. I LOVE the last two sentences. As we’ve talked about, with many men it takes a gut wrenching, 2×4 club to the stomach sort of epiphany to want to talk. When my clients reach this point of pain, hunger, or fear…they finally call. When a guy finds a safe place to talk without judgment, the flood gates open. Sometimes it’s way too late. Even then it doesn’t matter. He needs to work on being better at his NEXT relationship.
Then he has to decide if he actually going to DO anything different. If nothing changes – nothing changes.
Title: When a guy finds a safe place to talk without judgment, the floodgates open.

We’re Men. We Don’t Talk About Our Feelings.

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Aaron Anderson describes how overcoming the stereotype of the silent stoic could help men take responsibility for their relationships.

20 Great Ways to Sabotage Yourself

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Paul Hudson suggests that avoiding these things will have a positive effect on our lives.

Five Suggestions for Talking to a Guy About Difficult Topics

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Andrew Smiler provides five conversational tips to help boys and men feel more comfortable during challenging conversations.

Control the Anger or Lose the Relationship

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Dr. Steven Lake explains the importance of taking ownership of your anger

How to Improve Your Marriage without Talking about it

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Rabbi Slatkin explores ways to make your marriage better without having a conversation

Touch Isolation: Insisting Boys Learn Independence Creates an Isolating Trap for Men

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Mark Greene believes that men heckle women about frequency of sex because men key on it as authentic contact in lives otherwise cut off from connection.

Landmark Forum: Is it a Cult?

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Michael Anthony, an Iraq War veteran, attended the Landmark Forum personal development course. Was it worth it?

How My Father Healed from Chronic Mental Illness

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Jed Diamond’s father got shuffled through the mental health system for years, until a loving, “slow medicine” helped him heal.

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