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Shame Is Why We Fight

January 6, 2013 By Vironika Tugaleva 29 Comments

When a man can’t soothe his woman’s anxieties, he has failed to protect her. And in our culture of masculinity, failed men are expendable.

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Some Thoughts on Forgiveness

December 28, 2012 By Rick Belden 23 Comments

When it is possible at all, forgiveness is an ongoing, sacred process.

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Violence and Victimization: Stereotypes of Dangerous Men

December 4, 2012 By Christopher M. Anderson 12 Comments

Are male survivors of abuse more likely to become violent, themselves?

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He Who Laughs Last: Ending the Cycle of Male Abuse

November 5, 2012 By Justin Cascio 13 Comments

For comedian Billy Batz, Male Abuse Awareness Week is personal.

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Jim’ll Fux It

October 18, 2012 By Ben Belenus 6 Comments

What forces might have made Jimmy Savile a sexual predator and allowed him to get away with it all his life? Ben Belenus on our personal sex gods.

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