Rehearse Your Future: Your Thoughts Are the Shadows of Your Desires

You get what you think about, whether you want it or not.

How to Want Very Little

It’s okay to want things. But what if you were satisfied with simply acknowledging your desire and not acting on it?

Performing Black Masculinity: Reflections on a Jewish Boy’s Youth

Our perceptions of black masculinity are based on myths white men created to dehumanize black men. But we are captive to these myths inasmuch as we desire to make this imagined black masculinity our own.

His Wife Cheated on Him for 10 Years: Don’t Waste Your Life Says Man on Reddit

Take it from a Man who has lived, yet not lived: Don’t waste what life you have.

Mining Literature to Break Through to Our Dreams

A young writer finds gold in the prologue to “The Alchemist.”

Improve Your Love Life By Working On This One Thing

Jordan Gray says that there is one thing that is all too often overlooked when it comes to improving relationships from the inside out.

Manufacturing Content

Contentedness comes naturally, in the absence of manufactured desire. But getting back to that natural state might take some work.

Letting Go Of Desires

Leo Babauta on freeing yourself.

Why We Must Move Beyond Condoms and into Cultures of Desire

“Messages that focus solely on condom use do not engage with the psychological and social issues that inflame people’s desires to engage in risk-taking behaviour,” writes Angelus Morningstar.

Why Not Knowing What You Want Will Get You What You DON’T Want

Coach and Author, Dixie Gillaspie, challenges us to make decisions out of our vision of long-term results rather than defaulting to what is expected or what feels good right now!

25 Killer Actions to Boost Your Self-Confidence

Our favorite lifestyle guru Leo Babauta returns with tips on how to develop self confidence

10 Awesome Things Atheists Want for Christmas*

Have an Atheist around and don’t know what to get them for the Holidays? Fear not, Doug Zeigler has 10 suggestions to help you out.

Unconventional People Need Love Too

We can’t keep thinking that one size fits all when it comes to romance.

Are We Too Obsessed With Unraveling the Mystery of What Women Want in a Male Partner?

Steve LaFond breaks down some of the confusing societal reasons that men think,”All women want this.”

“Men who enjoy more and higher quality sex have one thing in common. They don’t NEED it and they don’t try to GET it.”

This comment of the day was by Steve Horsmon on the post The Unbelievable Secret to Getting More Sex

5 Ways “Taking Space” Can Aid Your Marriage

The benefits of taking some time off for one’s self in a relationship.