Five Awesome First Dates


First dates can be rough, but Dr. Nerdlove has a few ideas that might help break the ice.

Bullies, Dickwolves and Apologies (Or: The Problem with Penny-Arcade)


Harris O’Malley is frustrated with Penny-Arcade’s insensitivity and hypocrisy, explaining that for people who claim to hate bullies, they sure act like bullies when the mood strikes.

How to Be a High Status Man

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Harris O’Malley insists that you can show that you have value without having to pretend to be someone you’re not.

Where Have All The Good Men Gone?


Harris O’Malley challenges the notion that there is an epidemic of man-children in society today.

How to Get a Second Date (By Acing the First)

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Doctor NerdLove offers a play-by-play guide for showing off your best self on a first date.

OKCupid and Race Fetishism

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Doctor NerdLove asserts we all have types that turn our cranks more than others. The problem is when it goes from simple physical attraction to fetishization.

Better Dating Through Mind Control

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Doctor NerdLove looks back at his worst years—plagued with anxiety and loneliness—and shares the tools that helped him succeed in dating.

The 20, 30 and 40+ Year-Old Virgin

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Doctor NerdLove examines the complicated cultural and personal narratives surrounding male virginity.

How Do You Know When It’s Love?


Doctor NerdLove explores the reasons why so many guys get confused about what it means to be in love.

Should You Get Back Together WIth Your Ex?

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Doctor NerdLove helps the broken-hearted sort through the good—and not-so-good—reasons for reuniting after a break-up.

The Appeal of “Bad Boys”

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Doctor NerdLove explains that what makes a “bad boy” so appealing isn’t his badness – it’s something even nice guys can do, too.

The Anti-Sex Equation

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Doctor NerdLove explains the problem with excessive neediness—and what you can do to combat it.

On Women and Casual Sex – Part II: Flings, One Night Stands and Same Night Lays


Guys, you’re doing it wrong: some women DO like casual sex.

On Women and Casual Sex – Part I: The Pleasure Theory


Actually, Good Charlotte, girls DON’T like cars and money—as much as they like boys who know how to “please” them…

Understanding Women

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Doctor NerdLove examines the notion that women are inherently so different from men that understanding them requires some sort of guidebook.

This Is Why You Fail at Dating

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Doctor NerdLove explains how confirmation bias, fear and negativity are ruining your dating life.