I Am Proud Of My Masculinity

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Graham Phoenix has felt a need to take control over what he does in life and he has had many reasons to question this over the years. He now realizes that this is an essential aspect of his masculinity, an important part of being a man.

“Rape is a problem of control, not sex…linked to general disrespect & dominance.”

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Jimmy Savile, Rape Culture and the Lessons for Us All

Sex and Control – How I Experienced My Dark Energy

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Graham Phoenix gets goosebumps just thinking about sex. It’s so important to get it right, because so much flows from the balance between sex and control.

Submissive Men Circa 1988: An Excerpt From the Memoirs of Janet Hardy

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Kink pioneer Janet Hardy recalls some of the men she met when she first started exploring BDSM. The following is an excerpt from Janet Hardy’s upcoming memoir, currently titled “Impervious: Chronicles of a Retired Deviant”. In this excerpt, she recalls the early days of finding dates through coded personal ads. The personal ads suddenly became […]

The Blame Game

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Mike Sliwa believes blame has replaced responsibility and therefore reinforced dominant points of view.

The Problem with Dominance, Submission, and Public Shaming in Airport Security Lines

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The TSA demands a certain level of compliance for security reasons, but what happens when they abuse their authority?

You’re Never Not What You Are

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Young self-identified masters and dominants often have to fight for their identities BDSM spaces. Olivia Davis looks at why that’s wrong. In some ways, BDSM is a subculture of title and tradition. The rigid backbone of many kink organizations is Leather—regimented, highly organized Leather. Dating back to WWII vets desperately seeking military structure in their […]

Boys, Men, and Suicide

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Although 80% of completed suicides are by males, there are no national programs specifically aimed at men or boys. Tom Golden wants to change that.

“50 Shades of Grey,” “Fight Club,” and the Complications of Male Dominance

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Clarisse Thorn sees nothing new in eroticized images of male dominance and violence, but she sees plenty that’s thought-provoking.

Gender on Safari

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Tom Matlack observes animal gender roles while on safari in Kenya.